Invasion of the Frogs?!
On the Bog (with Kat, Bear, & Wogs)

On the Bog! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

Invasion of the Frogs?!

Early summer rains brought cool winds and dark skies.  Kat, Bear, and Wogs were nestled warmly near the toasty fire in their Starry Cottage On the Bog!

Inside, Kat, Bear, and Wogs cozied up on their comfy couch and listened with giddy glee to the happy, froggy harmony coming in from the Bog.  You almost couldn’t hear the steady pour of rain for the loudness of the frogs.

Kat (giggling at the delightful sound):  They’re SO LOUD.  The rain is making them very happy!

Wogs (turning to look at Kat with big, wondering, playful eyes):  What if it’s not lots of frogs?  What if it’s just one REALLY BIG frog!

hearts. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

Kindness and Caring.  These go a long way and make a big difference in the world around us.  And for ourselves.

Dear Sweet Blossoms,

I find myself vibrating with the stress of an unkind, uncaring interaction today.  We had trees planted here at our Starry Cottage On the Bog (we are so grateful for our new trees, the life and light they are, and the life they will support)!

The trees are a delight!

The planters of the trees were unkind and uncaring, and their actions and attitudes have been a challenge to process.  I mention this, not to be a bummer, but to highlight our actions have impact.  Whether for good or for bad.  We can be bright lights and love and bring ourselves and the world up, or not.  It is our choice.

I feel our times are changing us.  I’m feeling harshness where once their was, at minimum, social civility.

It does not have to be this way.

We can be kind.  We can care.  We can love.  And we be bright lights!

For me, I find it feels wonderful sharing and smiling and hugging and being there for others!

Being here with you is AMAZING!!!  Being here with you is SQUEE!!!  Being here with you is HEALING!!!  Being here with you is LOVE and BIG HUGS!!!

Be well, my sweet peas!  May you find yourself surrounded by kindness and caring today, and everyday (and for when you don’t, know I am hugging you tighter and brighter, all day long!)!!!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

Create Positive, Functional Relationships to Cope and Heal!

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Hello Sweet Beautiful Blossoms!

Today is sort of an impromptu post.  I have lots and lots of planned posts and things to say, which I will definitely keep on writing, but for this quickie moment in time, I’m reading this incredibly helpful book called, The Body Keeps The Score.  In the short of it, it’s about trauma and recovery, but in the long of it, it shares juicy, Amaze-balls insight into mental and emotional health, biology (structure & function), healing, and the healthcare system approach to treating mental and emotional challenges.  … It ain’t light reading, but it’s worthy reading!  So … I’m reading today … and something I read resonated SO BIG and SO DEEP I just had to share with you!!!

More to the point, it says these positive, functional relationships are critical for healing and coping.

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

I’m gonna paraphrase from the book here (I’m in CH 5 for those of you who are so inclined to dig into the book yourselves.):

And there’s a hair-bit more of super importance:

There are 2 main reasons why I decided to jot down my thoughts on this for you:

Throughout Covid, I’ve been forced to navigate my anxieties and fears and my increasingly complex health challenges, and as a way to navigate and cope, I:

  • joined a women’s circle
  • started doing YogaWithAdriene
  • invested in my mental, emotional, and physical health (a relationship I have with myself … that in all honesty covers everything I’m doing here … I have committed to myself and my wellness.)
  • started working with wellness and success coaches that are positive peeps for me to work with
  • distanced myself from toxic information
  • returned to therapy after 20 years
  • am growing my knowledge of women’s health and the effects of inflammation
  • adopted anti-inflammation eating and living habits

I’m taking positive actions for myself and surrounding myself with positive, functional relationships, and IT’S WORKING!!!!

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

As part of the above, I said I’m growing my knowledge about women’s health and the effects of inflammation … and what I’m reading in this book supports a very important aspect of being able to reduce inflammation (which, honestly, if you’re a blossom – an estrogen-producing, vagina-bearing individual [EPVBI … or some new acronym yet to be determined] … YOU MUST KNOW … you very likely have elevated inflammation … and this means, you are prone to developing a host of unfriendly health challenges … like the Big C, heart disease, stroke, etc … but more details of this are for another post … lots of them.)

Therefore, surrounding yourself with positive, functional relationships will not only make you FEEL better in the happiness department, it will help you BE HEALTHIER in every way.

Make friends.  Surround yourself with people who love and support you.  Who will see and hear you for who you are.  Who will connect with you.

If your current tribe is not serving you … aka supporting you … seek and build a new tribe.

That’s what I am doing, and it’s working!

It won’t happen overnight.  It will take time.  But you are worth it!

And that is my impromptu message of love and big hugs for you today!

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Oh … I just want to add, I know this can be easier said than done … I am human after all … the challenges of first of all valuing yourself enough to commit to yourself can be a doozy, and then once you value yourself, quitting or navigating toxic relationships is hard.  I know.

So what I’m saying here is LOVE YOU to Be Well.  Baby steps with the big goal in mind!  Start small.  Remember: “Progress, Not Perfection” (Jill Stante).

Try starting with either growing a new positive, functional relationship, or by reducing time in a toxic one.  And then keep loving you and moving forward!!!

And say this next Positude out loud to yourself to remind yourself … daily … frequently … as much as you need until it’s grown deep inside you with knowing:

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Hope this helps!  Thank you, always, for being here with me and sharing this growing time together!!!!

Big Love and Big Hugs!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

Turtle Time!
On the Bog (with Kat, Bear, & Wogs)

On the Bog (with Kat, Bear, & Wogs). Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

Turtle Time!

With summer quickly approaching, activity On the Bog was at an all time high!  And the turtles were getting in on the action!

The blue skies were mostly clear, and the sun was bright and happy.  Bug and bird life fluttered, flittered, and flew all about, buzzing and chirping, humming and tweeting, and making for a most melodious delight!

Tree canopies bubbled with leafy life and gently swayed in the comfortable, warm breeze.  Wildflowers burst with color.  And our adventurous trio, Kat, Bear, and Wogs, out for an afternoon walk, came upon the joyful busy of the Bog.

Tabitha, the snapping turtle, had emerged from the depths of the bog covered in algae, and was nestled into the hole she’d dug, laying her many eggs!  By the middle of summer, baby snappers would be scattering about!

Tomi the Taxi, a painted turtle, was happily ferrying riders from one bog spot to another.  Kat, Bear, and Wogs looked on as Tomi gave Belle a free ride … Belle and Squeech were taking turns and having fun!  Tomi was cheerfully playing along with his feathery friends!

Kat (excited to see turtles, thinking they are SO cute):  Ohmigosh, look! Turtles!!!!

Wogs (thinking turtles are SO cool):  I see them!  And look, Tomi’s playing taxi ride for the day!  We should go grab our picnic gear and camp out for the afternoon!

Bear (cheerfully flicker-waving his tail at all the scurrying and flurrying and enjoying their adventurous find totally agreed with Kat and Wogs):  Mrow!

Hello Beautiful Light of Love and Happiness!

Thinking of you being here with me, I’m bouncing with giddy glee!  You make me smile so big, and you fill my heart to overflowing!  Thank you for our shared time together!!!

Remember to give yourself a big hug and lots of love today!  Drink lots of water.  Nibble on nutritious num nums.  Get up, wiggle/dance/walk around, and give your body some movement love!  And take a moment to look at something you love and just breathe and be!  You got today SO GOOD!!!!

muah! xoxox!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

What Exactly are POSitudes?

POSitudes. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

What Exactly Are POSitudes?

Okay. So, the other day I was having a conversation with a fellow biz chick, and she asked me, “What exactly are P. O. S. itudes?”

Instantly stunned … I thought: P. O. S. itudes? … as in Piece Of Shiz itdues?

OH.MY.GOD.

I’m still cracking up.  But also freaking out.

So, well then … lemme clear this up!

POSitudes are they way every blossom who wants to live a happy, healthy life should be thinking, acting, and channeling!

Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs. POSitudes POSitudes = POSitive + attitudes!

I’ve been spelling POSitudes with a capital POS, because once upon a time I spent considerable time being a health scientist, and in chemistry, for short, we use POS for positive and NEG for negative.  So POSitude was just an obvious go to for me.  However … to get swapped into “piece of shiz” by non-chemistry folk … uh … ???

Looks like we’re due for an capital letter emphasis change.  So from here on out … it will just be Positude … a happy combination of positive and attitude!

Every blossom already has some Positudes built into her life, just from living, learning, and listening … but I take it a step further.

I reflect on my life, the ideas, thoughts, words, images … anything that helps me cope, heal, feel better, smile, laugh, … All The Good Things … and then I tap into my doodlebug juiciness and art things up with AWESOMELY positive, loving images + words + reminders to help, not just me, but any blossom who sees them.

My goal is to brighten my day and yours, and to guide our ways … for when we get a bit too busy to remember the little things that make a big difference!

Like remembering to take a healing breath.  Like remembering to spend time doing something you love.  Remembering to do the little self-care things that make a big ginormous difference.

  • Guiding questions to keep me on the right path
  • Loving thoughts to hold me tight
  • Positive reaffirmations to bolster me up
  • Purposeful actions to take me forward
  • Gentle, supportive reminders to keep me focused on the really good stuff in life
  • Big Hugs to love me so big and make me smile

Here’s some examples of my doodlebugging, juicy, loving Posituding happiness for you!  I’ve put together a short compilation of a few of my Positudes (I actually have hundreds!).  So, please …

Come breathe with me in this minute video book of Positudes!  Give yourself a minute to just breathe and be, and enjoy this moment in Positude.

Welcome back from your minute of loving self-care and breathing!

As I was saying, Positudes are meant to help you!  To love you and pick you up.  Life can be crazy, hectic, overwhelming, busy, splattered with negativity, etc … and Positudes are reminders, thoughts, and ways of being and living to help you cope and counteract all of that … they help you guide your actions toward more positive and healthier living.  They help you feel better and make you smile.  When practiced regularly, they grow goodness and wellness into your being and living, and just all around make your life a happier place to be!

I use my Positudes daily.  I have them on my phone in ebook form.  I have them in video form for reflection in my yoga room.  I have them on my computer.  I have them sprinkled throughout my space to keep me smiling and living goodness!

One of my favorite times to reflect and meditate on my Positudes is when I’m wrapping up my daily yoga practice with my paced-breathing-legs-up-the-wall time.  I breathe and watch my reflection video and reflect, meditate, and envision … it’s absolutely delightful and makes me feel so good!

If you are interested in more of my Positudes (thank you for loving them!), I am finding ways to offer them to you.  You can experience them in a number of ways:

The best way to let them help you is however they call to you, but what I find helpful is to read the words … and really let them sink in … enjoy the accompanying art … but feel the meaning of the Positude.  Then I think about how this Positude can guide me in this moment, and even this day.  I become mindful of how the Positude makes me feel.

Well, Beautiful Blossom!  Thank you for being here with me!  I hope this shared time has brightened your day!  I hope you feel my love and big hugs!  I hope you enjoy this moment we are in, and the rest of your day!  I hope I’ve helped you smile big!

Muah!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

A Curious Visit!
On the Bog (with Kat, Bear, & Wogs)

On the Bog. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

A Curious Visit!

New visitors to the Bog stirred the creatures far and wide – along with Kat, Bear, and Wogs – with joyful curiosity, and BIG HOPES!

It was a delightfully warm and sunny spring day!  The rains had greened everything up, and bright, yellow dandelions dotted the soft, plush, green grass.

A happy chorus of cheerful chirps, squeaks, quacks, and buzzy flights filled the air.

With their picnic camp all set up, Kat, Bear, and Wogs settled in for an afternoon of fun and merry onlooking!

Mr. and Mrs. Mallard swam, and munched, and explored all throughout the little pond they’d found, poking their beaks into the cattails, looking for private places to nestle.

To the gleeful anticipation of their onlookers, the ducks were deciding if this might be The Right Pond for them.

Kat (raising the binocs to get a better peek):  I hope they move in!  We might get to see baby ducks!!!

Wogs (reaching for the camera to catch some snaps):  This is a great pond!  We could get lucky!

Bear (loving their exciting picnic day together and thinking baby ducks would definitely be super cute): Mrow!

Bee Kind. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

Beeeeee Kind to yourself today!  Give yourself some love!  Take a moment to pause.  Breathe.  Let go.  Just be.

Be in this moment.  Beeee LOVE!

Give gratitude for this beautiful day … our happy time together.  Give gratitude for your beautiful body … mind … and soul!  Give gratitude for the Big Love in your heart and all the delights you share!

I’m hugging you SO BIG!  Thank you for sharing this bright moment with me, and taking this deep, rejuvenating breath with me!  I am so happy you are here!

ps: I also want to share a gentle reminder to beeee kind to the bees as well.  We desperately need them.  They love dandelions and other pollen producing flowers.  Help them out … leave some water out nearby … don’t use pesticides and herbicides on your flowers (including dandelions).  Together we can save the bees, and the bees can help save us!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

Frogs On the Bog!
On the Bog (with Kat, Bear, & Wogs)

On the Bog! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

Frogs On the Bog!

Spring rains had come and gone throughout the night.  With the new day, the nearly clear, blue sky was brightened by the happy, warm sun and dotted by only the occasional fluffy white cloud.

The air smelled fresh and renewed, and the gentle breeze invited exploration and adventure!  Everything on the Bog was beginning to look and sound more vibrant and alive!

Kat, Bear, and Wogs had woken up to their favorite delightful Bog sounds: birds chirping, singing, and trilling, … and frogs!  Chatterbox frogs carrying on the most animated and chipper conversations!

Excited to spy a glance of froggy delight, Bear hopped in his wagon to go for a Bog stroll.  Kat and Wogs, gleefully agreed and out they went to find some exuberant, chitter chattering frogs!  Even Belle followed along behind, swooshing and swooping through the air in springy delight.

As they blissfully sauntered along, listening to the frog talk getting louder and louder, and keeping their eyes peeled for the amphibious fun, they came upon a small Bog pond … and there they were … the frogs!

Kat (giddily bouncing and pointing):  Look!  There they are!!!!

Wogs (happily halting the pull on Bear’s wagon, he turned to see):  I see them!  And look, there’s Squeech, too!

Bear (having been keeping his ears pert and alert, he turned his head and happily flicker-waved his tail, feeling adventurous success!):  Mrow!

“Spatial Awareness” … lol … fancy talk for finding your happy place!

Find a place you love.  A place that makes your heart sing.  Where you feel at peace, with calm and happiness.  Live there, go there, walk there, spend time there … whatever … be there.

Learn this goodness info about you … learn what makes you feel bliss-filled peace and calm.  And when you feel the pressures of life, the world, your relationships, work, health, … whatever is being a challenge … spend time in your happy place.

Breathe.  And just be.  Let go.  Give yourself a break.  Time to rest and rejuve.  Heal.  And be squee again.

For me, hands down, this place is in the nature of my backyard.  Pauli and I specifically chose our little, tiny corner of the world to be on a bog with a river and woods nearby … and delightful woodland creatures!  It brings our hearts so much delight!

We open the windows and just listen to the sounds of the birds and the frogs and the buzz and hum of bog life.

We firepit under the stars and listen to the frogs go wild in nightly delight (and the crickets, too!)  And owls … sometimes we hear the owls.

I could spend hours just being in this space, and it does my body good.

When we built our house, I was still very much in the depths of chronic fatigue and spent many, many, many long hours too weak to move out of bed.  So we made sure I would have a happy view and delightful sounds to encourage me, even from bed.  Living on the bog is healing balm for my soul.  We wanted to empower delight in me to help me heal, or at least enjoy what I could of life being stuck in bed.

If I’ve learned anything, having your spot … the space that makes your heart sing … it makes a truly positive difference!  It will help you feel light and airy.  It will put a smile on your face and pink in your heart!  It’s easy self-care!

So wherever your spot is … whether you live there or visit, or even imagine it … May it bring you healing, loving light and grow the smile on your face, ever so BIG!!!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

Birthday On the Bog!
On the Bog (with Kat, Bear, and Wogs)

On the Bog (with Kat, Bear, & Wogs). Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

Birthday On the Bog!

Gifted with a beautifully bright, unusually warm, and cheerfully chirpy and buzzy sprwinter day, the Bog was alight with birthday glee and delight!

It was standing room only as everyone gathered ’round to wish Bear a very Happy Birthday … and to see his sleek, totally cool, new ride … the most squeetacular, pink, polka-dotted red wagon ever!

Kat (loving Bear so BIG):  Happy Birthday, Bear!  Hope you love your new wagon!

Wogs (loving Bear so BIG):  Happy Birthday, Bear!  Wanna go for a ride?

Bear (flicker flitting his tail, hopped inside his new wagon, and purring happily, beamed with love): Mrow!

Kat and Wogs tied their balloons to the wagon handle for added birthday bling.  Then Wogs pulled Bear along in wide circles for everyone to see.  They hopped and bounced, and whooped with the happiest of celebrating Bog creature sounds!

To share in the fun, Bear insisted everyone get to try a ride in his new wagon.  And Wogs enthusiastically played along.  Kat clapped merrily, growing the fun!

With elated fluttery wings, Squeech and Belle chirped and trilled bubbly songs the whole way around.

Flop and Fluff each rode separately, bobbing with the thrill and shimmying their puffball tails, happy for the fun!

It was a silly, perfect, special, fun sharing day!

Bear’s Happy Birthday party and super cool new wagon were the talk of the Bog for days and days.  It was a love-filled day worth remembering!

Spring brings such excitement!  All the green, all the budding and blossoming flowers, all the sunny warmth!  It makes my heart extra super spectacularly SQUEEtastic, love-filled, and Huggy PINK … which is saying something, cuz I’m bringing this happy goodness all the time!

Here in Michigan, it will still be a couple of months before we get “reliable” sun and warmth, and to get there, the rains will come.  But the rain brings all the life and green, so you won’t find me complaining.  I just hunker down and in and enjoy each day and each moment for wherever I am.

This summer, Pauli and I will have our landscape installed (we recently moved into a new construction home with dirt for a yard) … therefore an outdoor space to play in, and we are excited for all of the upcoming firepits, stargazing, and hammock time listening to the sounds of the bog and nature!

In this moment, I really just want to HUG you so big and give gratitude for you being here and celebrating the joys of spring with me!

May your day be filled with light, love, big hugs, and blossoming with gratitude!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

My Body Is an Alien:
25 Awesome Goodness Changes I’ve Made in My Life This Past Year!

My Body Is an Alien. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

25 Awesome Goodness Changes I’ve Made in My Life This Past Year!

Change can be hard.  I’ve found it takes the right motivation.  Willingness.  Choice.  And I’ve found that positive change for the good brightens your life through wellness, … be it mental, physical, emotional, or all of the above.

Today I share with you some of my story that led me to the MANY positive changes I have made in my life over the past year.

All have been worth my effort.

All have changed my life.

For the better.  Good.  Positive!

I can honestly say that in many ways I’m not the same person today I was a year ago.  Not that I was a bad person, or even a super unhappy person.  I just wasn’t where I needed and wanted to be.

And now I’m growing these AWESOME POSITIVE CHANGES in my life, every day.  And I feel better.  I AM better.  Way better than before, and growing better, more and more.

I have many positive reaffirmations in my life these days, and one of them goes like this:

And really, that’s what I’ve come to realize is the big challenge in life … healing.  Healing from the mental, emotional, and physical damage we encounter on a daily basis.

Be it the relationships in our life, or even lack thereof.  The shiz coming outta the TV or in the news.  Our addiction to our phones and toxic social media.  In the food we eat; the air we breathe; the chemical toxins that surround us everywhere … our bright, beautiful bodies need help.

Our bright, beautiful bodies need our love and our attention.  Our care and kindness.  Our beautiful bodies need the nurturing, nourishing, replenishing opportunity to heal.  And it’s up to us to give it to our bodies … to ourselves.  With love!

Story Time. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

Story Time

Last year was … well, you know.  It came with a big suck. The pandemic.  But right before all that stressy chaos hit, my health tanked.  Something big changed in my body, and it scared me … like Super Bad scared me.  Super Huge.

My birthday is in the summer, and back in February/March 2020, I wasn’t sure I was going to make it to my birthday.

At that time, I’d been suffering from worsening chronic fatigue for about 7 years.  I went from a few bad days a month, to only getting maybe a few good days a month, … maybe.  I spent most of my time in bed, with times of being so weak and achy, Pauli would have to assist me outta bed just to go to the bathroom.  It was monumentally unfun, and a substantial loss of lifetime.

And maybe in another post sometime, I’ll talk about chronic fatigue in more detail to help encourage others who suffer (there’s an increased rate of suicide amongst CF sufferers … as modern medicine doesn’t understand it yet, and as a result, very little help or encouragement is offered.)

But for now, this post is about the 25 AWESOME GOODNESS changes I made in my life and what happened last February/March to motivate me to make those changes.

So … let’s start with motivation!

When the pandemic hit, I was terrified … having chronic fatigue … how would I ever be able to fight off this horrible virus if I didn’t even have the strength and energy to get out of bed?

  • It’s almost nearly impossible for vegetarians to get enough iron in their diets.  I learned this on my own by my keeping a food journal to calculate my daily intake.  I definitely was not getting enough.  This self-discovery, about vegetarians unable to get sufficient iron (along with vegans), is now being taught for diagnostic purposes in naturopathic medical school … iron deficiency causes CF in women.
  • Iodine deficiency can occur in peeps drinking organic milk.  BTW, milk is our big source of iodine.  With conventional milk, cows are fed diets with iodine, and the equipment used to get the milk is cleaned with iodine solutions … so iodine is sourced into conventional milk, and peeps drinking it, get their iodine.  (But they also get all the ugh that comes with non-organic milk.)  However, organic milk is iodine deficient.  The cows are fed organic diets not supplemented with iodine, and the milk gathering equipment is cleaned differently, so … iodine deficiency.  I again food journaled and calculated I wasn’t getting enough.

These 2 nutrients became my huge focus as deficiencies in my diet.  Low iron = low energy.  Low iodine = understimulated/supported thyroid = low energy.

My doc ran some blood tests confirming I was iron deficient and my inflammation marker (c-reactive protein) was elevated.  We just did the math for the iodine deficiency … it was a straight up “not getting enough in my diet” kind of thing.  But for iron, I’d been tested over and over and over again throughout my adult years with me always coming back normal.

I began researching supplements for iron … and I also started looking into quality, pharmaceutical grade supplements.  With my inflammation marker elevated, I wanted to make sure I wasn’t unintentionally adding toxins into my system.

I hadn’t felt this much energy in YEARS!  And to jump to currently … I’ve essentially knocked chronic fatigue to the curb.  I’ve had a few spells of low energy, but I’ve been able to pinpoint these events to when I’ve forgotten to take my iron … so guess what I take religiously now?!!!!!

So … great, MK, right?!!! CF kicked to the curb, so what’s all this health trouble you’re talking about?  What motivated you?

Well, I’m very perimenopausal … like I’ve got symptoms from hell … and actually CF is part of it, as originally, when it first happened, my doc at the time suggested my flagging progesterone levels, and I started using bioidentical progesterone cream, which helped, but did not fix the problem.

My Body Is an Alien. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!
  • I suddenly lost a shiz ton of weight … a dangerous amount, and I wasn’t trying to lose weight.
  • My lungs became painfully inflamed and asthmatic.
  • I developed horrendous, cracking, blistering, angry, angry, angry red eczema.
  • I was a withering, coughing, lung spasming, rashing, in-debilitating-pain human.  It suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucked.
  • My inflammation markers were elevated without explanation.
  • I’m a bit of a germaphobe, so on top of this, when Covid hit, while my lungs are being all weird, I kinda freaked … ok … I really freaked out!
  • My anxiety went off the damn charts.

This was not an easy time for me.  It took ice, lots of bandages, pain meds, Benadryl at night (to knock me out so I could sleep while in so much pain), … and more … but you get the picture.  I cried a lot.  And then, my rash … the eczema … it got really, really bad.  It started spreading.  My doc thought I had a systemic bacterial infection (that can kill you without immediate treatment, and even with).

So here we are in the high freak out panic at the beginning of the pandemic.  No visitors allowed in hospitals, etc.  And I had to go to the ER with this horrible sensation I might die.  Pauli and I were scared.  We cried in the car outside the ER.  I sobbed walking away from him, afraid it might be the last time I saw him.

So … there it is … motivation.  After 7 years of CF, a near death potential ER visit, new lung issues, new skin challenges, new weight challenges, new anxiety challenges, continuing perimenopausal health challenges … I knew I couldn’t live like this anymore.

Hearts. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

My 25 AWESOME GOODNESS LIFE CHANGES!

I love them all.  I feel so much better.  I still have health struggles … I’m still perimenopausing like a hormone deficient monster … but I’m truly better.  I’m in such a better place mentally, emotionally, and even physically!

OK … so let’s see this list of goodness!  To be honest, it mostly comes down to living through anti-inflammation efforts as much as possible.

The overview is to eat well, hydrate, sleep restfully, get movement in to my body, and calm the hell down (in every way … my body was on a physical, emotional, and mental stress meltdown).  Rest, rejuvenate, … heal.

So here we go:

  • Seemingly solving my chronic fatigue problem through nutritional deficiencies (iron and iodine) … if you are a chick with CF, check your nutrition through food journaling!  For years, the docs tested my iron and always said it was fine.  But turns out it wasn’t, and it took me adding it up and doing the math.  (Plus, the honesty of it is, the research for CF and women’s health is woefully underrepresented.)
  • Yoga with Adriene!  EVERY DAY!  OMG, this angel on earth is a life saver!!!  I started with her beginner’s videos and have grown and grown and am still growing.  She is the calming soundtrack in my life.  And if I had time, I would do yoga for hours and hours and hours a day.  (Side note: when I first got started, I had bandages all over my hands and wrists from the blistered and broken eczema … I was a sight.  But I did it anyway.  Starting slow and easy and growing.
  • Journaling for wellbeing, Positive Thinking, Reaffirmations … Goodness!!!
  • Prayerful Intentioning: thinking, speaking, feeling healthy, supportive, happy goodness (this one is actually a newer change, and I LOOOOOOOOOOVE it … it’s a mindset thing, and it’s so juicy and positive … DO IT!!!!
  • Started a saving my gums oral hygiene plan … I lost a few months of flossing due to bandaged hands and not being able to wash them more than once a day … and my teeth and gums took a bit of a hit … I’m in the process of trying to undo that damage, or at least minimize it and heal as much as possible.
  • I cut out all sugar for almost the whole year, but have since allowed minute amounts of coconut sugar or molasses back in for certain “sweet foods.”  And when I say minute, I mean MI-NUTE!  On average, I get zero to maybe half a gram of coconut sugar/molasses a day.  By comparison, most Americans are eating about 80+ grams of added sugar a day.  (Just to be clear, I still eat fruit … fruit is healthy and nutritious!)
  • I eliminated gluten.  I’d already begun this journey in my previous efforts to solve my chronic fatigue.  In the past year, I just made sure to be exacting about it.  BTW, if you have thyroid challenges, gluten really needs to go!
  • Daily movement: yoga + walking/dancing (fancy walking, lol) + I got a rebounder!!!  My goal is to do at least 25 minutes of yoga, 10-20 minutes of walk/dance, and currently up to 2.5 minutes of rebounding.  (Rebounding 5 minutes a day can reduce your inflammation by up to 19%!!!!)
  • I now practice paced breathing daily.  I focus mostly on a 10 second inhale, 10 second hold, exhale slow and easy for as long as it takes … I’ve grown into this … it took starting with a 4, 6, 4 pattern.
  • I meditate with my legs up wall, almost daily.  I try for 20 minutes a day with my paced breathing.
  • I have been in therapy this whole year … weekly … to help me cope with my health and my anxiety/OCD (living in the time of a pandemic for my germaphobic self … uh, not easy).
  • Learned about and now consume lots and lots and lots of healthy fats (seriously, ladies … our hormones need our help!)
  • Again, with thanks to Yoga With Adriene, I now take a more nurturing and nourishing approach to my body, mind, and soul … my wellness!  I now give gratitude for my beautiful body and this journey we are on together!
  • I incorporated melatonin and learned to sleep in the dark and red night lights (to eliminate melatonin interfering blue light) … I’ve been kinda afraid of the dark since I was a kid … so … kinda tackled a fear.
  • I’m creating a more regular sleep schedule.
  • I drink bone broth almost daily.
  • I joined a beautiful and supportive women’s circle!
  • I am growing my knowledge and learning to live more eco-friendly sustainably.
  • I went paperless in my biz and in my life as much as possible!
  • I changed my focus to: Focus on what is working + Every little bit I do is better than not doing anything at all!
  • I create, digi doodle, and digi paint almost daily for awesomeness and the added benefit of stress relief.
  • Changed the way I eat … I now eat for nutrition and anti inflammation … I want nutrient dense foods
  • I started taking organic CBD oil for my anxiety and OCD.
  • I switched as many supplements to pharmaceutical grade as possible, and changed my routine to targeted supplements with the help and care of a functional medicine doctor.
  • I began eliminating or limiting toxic relationships in my life, and instead starting growing and building supportive, loving relationships in my life.
My Body Is an Alien. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs! My bottom line … Be Kind to Me.  Live to be healthy.  Live to be kind.  Live with gratitude.  Live with POSitude.  Live with love!

My life is a lot different now than it was year ago.  For the first time in my life, I get movement daily.  I eat so much better.  I create the most happy art and goodness for me and my peeps.  I feel joy!  I feel peace and calm.  I prioritize my self-care, and I feel the difference … it’s delightful and wonderful and … the absolute bestest … ever!

I focus on what I can do, and do my best to let go of the rest.

I’m healthier, happier, and feeling the most love and squee in my heart I ever have!

Well, sweet peas!  You are beautiful!  Thank you for being here with me, as I share part of my story and journey towards making positive change with you!  I hope it helps you.  I hope it inspires you and grows you!  I hope it loves you and gives you a giant PINK-Hearted hug from me!

Until our next bloggin chat, may you be surrounded by the brightest, most positive, most healing loving light from me!!!

And if you have any questions about this post, or if you would like me to dive into more detail about any of the things I mentioned here, feel free to contact me via my contact page.  Just leave a happy message, and I’ll get to writing back to you!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

A New Happy Place!
On the Bog (with Kat, Bear, & Wogs)

On the Bog. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs!

A New Happy Place!

With the snows gone, sounds of spring abounded On the Bog!

The day was bright and inviting, with only a bit of a chill remaining in the air.

Out for a refreshing walk, Kat, Bear, & Wogs ventured deeper into the woods beyond the Bog and found a new happy place!

Kat (pointing with overflowing glee):  Look!  A river.  And there are fishies!  And do you see the bluebird?!!!  Ohmigosh, is that a weeping willow tree?

Wogs (nodding and delighting in their find):  That is a weeping willow!  What a happy place!

Kat (grinning huge at Wogs and Bear): When the leaves come back, we can come here to picnic and play!

Wogs (nodding enthusiastically):  It’ll be our new happy place!

Bear (flickering his tail with excitement and keeping his eyes on a splashing fish he spied): Mrow.

With spring a’comin’ and bringing delight, this could be a wondrous moment of self-exploration and finding new happinesses about yourself.

Consider taking a moment to imagine new possibilities for yourself.  What do you see?  What goodness, what new thing might you like to try?  A new place?  A new healthy food?  A new way to breathe (paced, for instance) to grow peace and calm into your days?  A new friendship?  A new interest to explore?  A new happy, nurturing, and nourishing habit to grow?

With spring comes rebirth and reinvigoration of mind, body, and spirit!  What positivity, reaffirmation, and goodness will you invite into you and your life?  What hug and love will you give yourself today?

And speaking of hugs … try this one on for a big smiling silliness in your day today!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

How Joining a Women’s Circle Has Changed My Life!

women's circle. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs! My reflection art from one of our recent circles!

How Joining a Women’s Circle Has Changed My Life!

 Why I even joined …

I needed positivity.  Reaffirmation.  Self-care.  Connection.  Happiness.  And I got it!

What we did …

She, along with a one of her inspirations and guiding lights, Deb Namara, were offering a 4 week Zoom-mediated Soul Circle.  We’d meet once a week for 4 weeks, and during the 90 minutes of wellness and positivity, Leonie and Deb talked about coping and healing – finding a way to do more than just survive the pandemic, but to come out the other side, better, more improved.  With self-care and positivity and light and love!

In a time, when everyone was talking about “can’t wait for things to go back to the way they were,” Leonie and Deb introduced the notion that perhaps things weren’t so great before.  Maybe instead of trying so hard to get back, maybe we could use this time to create and grow a better place, a better future. … And I bit onto that bit of inspiration with all my might … I definitely wanted to create a better, brighter, more hope-filled future!

Each week, we’d come together to listen to the beautiful, uplifting, positive, reaffirming, encouraging words of Leonie and Deb. Then Deb would guide us through an amazing meditation – another thing that until this experience, I’d never done – and then we’d be given the opportunity to creatively reflect on our medication through art or journaling (On my goodness, I can’t even tell you how much I loved this, but ever since, I’ve been using art and journaling to grow my wellness!).  Before closing, we would be given thought provoking questions to help guide us toward our brighter lights.

Every moment was bright.  Light.  Positive.  Caring.  Empowering.  I felt refreshed and renewed! I felt hope!

So, when the month came to an end, and Deb offered the opportunity to continue our Soul Circle meetings, I was in!  Hooked.  Enthusiastic.  Jubilant!  Waiting with giddiness and wanting for more goodness in my life!  Happy to be a part of something so gorgeous and healthy feeling!

Where we’re at … (the true beauty, beyond anything I could have imagined!)

So it’s been a year!  For those of us who have continued our time with Deb, we’ve taken life changing to a whole new level!

There’s about 20 of us now.  We’re smaller.  We still use Zoom.  We come from the US, Canada, UK, and Australia, … I think we might even have a New Zealander in there.  And every month, we are so excited to see each other and be in each other’s light!

Every month is different.  We always have Share and Support time.  Sometimes we have a guided meditation.  Sometimes we art/journal.  We have our opening and closing prayer.

Every month we listen with open hearts and live and grow in each others’ goodness and individual gifts and uniqueness!

It’s amazing!

It’s a no judgement, share zone.  We feel love and acceptance.  We hear and grow.  We connect.  We come together to feel each other’s brightness and to share and support each other!

It’s amazing!  I know I just said that … but seriously.  We are the embodiment of those little memes that tell us to be the woman who supports other women.

We ARE beautiful, bright souls supporting other beautiful, bright souls!  Sharing times with these incredible women is growing me, helping me, loving me, and for the first time in my life, truly accepting me for who I am with love and respect.  And it feels AMAZING!

So amazing in fact, that I feel compelled to write to you about it.  To encourage to join or start your own women’s circle.  To invite goodness into your life!  To brighten your days with love and support!  To feel the positive, reaffirming wellness of organic, juicy, healthy relationships!!!

And for this reason, I am including this post as a link back to “My Body Is an Alien” (a women’s hormone health blog series) … because on the list of things you can do to grow wellness into your life and your body is to join a women’s circle!

It’s what you make of it!

Think of the possibilities!  You can talk about your painful periods.  The challenges you are facing in your life and relationships.  Loss.   Work challenges.  Trying to combat toxic, negative thoughts.  Being peri-menopausal/menopausal and the challenges and health difficulties you are coping with.  The truly delightful nature walk you went on, and how you feel inspired.  The stars.  Crystals.  Art.  You can talk about whatever you and your beautiful group of women are called to talk about!

No judgment.  Only kind support.  Shared ideas.  Shared lessons learned.  Shared light and love.  Acceptance.  Connection.  Gentleness.  No longer feeling alone … like you are the only one in the world with this crazy shiz happening to you.

Hell, in our most recent Soul Circle, one of our gorgeous blossoms talked about how she gets so angry at the TV – all the shiz coming out of it – that she finds herself yelling at her TV.  Another beautiful soul is suffering the loss of a dear family member and trying to find ways to cope and move forward.  Another bright light talked about how her hormonal body is such a debilitating challenge it makes her feel abnormal, like a freak of nature, and it impacts her self-confidence.  I suspect we all feel these ways, at least sometimes.  It’s amazing be there for each other, and knowing we are not alone!

Each of share what we are called to share.  Each of compassionately listen and support.  Each of feel the love of our circle of bright lights shining!

And you, too, can have this.  You can join or start your own group.  Give it time.  Nourish and nurture each other.  Your relationships will grow in goodness!  You will feel better.  More light and wellness in your life!

I am compelled with a full and bright heart to share this goodness with you!

Also … I want to say … as part of my contribution to our group … I started giving a big, virtual hug (you know me and my hugging!), and now … before we end our monthly meetings, there are always big, loving hugs!

I wish this goodness for you!  And I hope you can grow, nourish, and nurture this positivity, reaffirming happiness, self-caring wellness into your life in a way that is absolutely positive and life changing for you!

Loving and Big Hugging you SO BIG!!!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate