Whether it’s the voice in your head sprinkling, or worse, showering you with toxic thoughts, the voice is loud. It resonates. You hear it. It confirms your fears and fuels your anxieties.
In the world around us, mean people, bullies, hate speech, intolerance … it’s all so loud! Amplified beyond any reasonable value.
We hear about the hateful things someone did, or said. We hear about the angst and discontent. We hear negativity ringing through with volume that can be deafening.
Yet, when we say positive things, give compliments, gush about the goodness, and do good things, it’s acoustic without the amp. It’s like a whisper, barely floating on the sound waves.
Why is that?
Why do we gravitate toward the negativity so easily?
Why do we focus on horrible people with only garbage to spew?
Why do we listen so intently to the toxic thoughts … and with such convinced belief?
Why not honor ourselves and our accomplishments with glorious, resounding, megaphone penetration????
Have you ever said, “I’m my own worst critic?”
If so, perhaps this is the time to stop saying it.
You are so much more than the negativity in your life – in our world. Be the first to stand up for you … overcoming the negativity starts with you!
Be Loud! Be Love!
If we don’t show ourselves self-love and self-respect, why on earth would anyone else do it? We should be the example for how we want to be treated.
We should show others our gentleness, our kindness towards ourselves … we should show them how we treat ourselves and how we treat others. And then this becomes the standard by which we invite others into our lives.
If they can’t treat you as well as you treat yourself, then why would you keep them?
The world seems to have taken a bit of messy spill out there in aisle 4 of the universe.
We hear the anger. We hear the self-serving entitlement. We hear the intolerance. We hear the unsettled, uprising volatility of a world needing/wanting/restlessly jostling to vent.
Anger. Negativity. Argument. Loud and noisy. And unsettling.
Our world is feeling uncertain.
And the truth of it is, most of that is beyond our control. And time spent on things beyond our control is arguably wasted and unhealthy time.
Overcoming negativity can be done! It starts in your heart. In your mind. In your thoughts. In your words. In your actions. In how you treat yourself and others. In how you perceive the world. In how you grow your life.
I invite you to pick up the megaphone to your positivity and be heard!
Don’t let negativity be the voice that guides you. You are bright, beautiful, and loved!
You have goodness to share!
You have goodness to live and be!
You are made of stardust and starlight brightened by your amazing uniqueness! Grow what you feel needs to be grown. And shine with all you’ve got!
The only way to make positivity be heard and be loud is for us to value it, live it, and shine it so bright we drown out the negativity darkness.
Together, you and me … we got this!
I love you so much!!! Thank you for sharing this Positivity Pep Talking time with me!
I hope you feel inspired! Lit up and ready to be loud!
Until about a year ago, I’d never uttered these words before. I could’ve never imagined how powerful they could be. Then they became life changers … words of empowerment, growth, and positive, healthy, happy change!
Instead of feeling like it wouldn’t be worth it to only walk for 10 minutes, I started telling myself walking for 10 minutes was better than not walking at all.
Instead of feeling like it wouldn’t be enough to take a coupla minutes to stop and just be and breathe, I started giving myself a coupla minutes to stop and just be and breathe … and my body thanks me every time for the calm and peace I invite into my being.
Instead of telling ourselves it’s only worth it if we do “it” BIG or spend “real time” doing it … we should be telling ourselves the truth:
Walking/dancing
Yoga
Paced breathing
Eating more nutrient-dense nutritious foods
Cutting out sugar (major inflamer and health challenger)
Cutting out gluten (major inflamer and health challenger)
Giving myself de-stressing time through creativity/doodle-arting
Focusing on POSitude and affirmations
“Gratituding”
Spending time being mindful
Taking better care of my oral healthcare
Taking better care of my body
Getting more movement into my body (improving my strength and wellness)
Giving myself more self-love, self-respect, and self-care … prioritizing me and my wellness
Spending happy time with people I love and who love me
Smiling, laughing, playing
Sitting in the sun
Listening to sights and sounds of our bog (the amazing nature around us)
Growing my wellness knowledge to be able to take better care of myself and my loved ones
This list goes on and on …
I didn’t make all of these changes overnight. But by allowing myself to grow in little bits … giving myself permission to accept progress over perfection … taking it one lil step at a time … I have made a world of positive, healthy, happy difference in my life!
I feel brighter, PINKer, filled with so much love and gratitude! I see the goodness in me and what I can do.
It took time. Lil bits. Wanting change and allowing change, then growing it with gentle ease.
Not forcing myself into any one thing. Not overwhelming myself with too much, too fast … not creating inevitable failure.
By waking up each day and listening to my body, heart, mind, and soul … hearing what I need … and giving myself what I need … I’ve grown miraculously!
Take today for instance. I don’t feel well. It’s one of my hormonally challenging days. My arms, legs, & knees are weak. My body is fatigued. I feel heavy. I feel challenged. Even sitting up in my chair at my desk is more effort than usual.
Today, I need a little extra self-love and self-care. Today, I need to slow down and take it easy. I need to nourish with nutrient-dense foods. I need to get gentle movement into my body to “keep the juices flowing and uncrumple it” from feeling like gravity is winning. I need to nourish myself. Nurture my wellness. I need to give my body what it needs. Surround myself with love and positivity.
So instead of beating myself up for moving slowly and not being able to tackle my list, I’m here visiting with you, sharing goodness from my heart, and creating a blog post I’ve been meaning to write for you.
Instead of expecting myself to dig into an hour of yoga (which I love to do), I’ll get on the mat to nurture my body … I’ll listen to what it’s telling me it can do today … and that’s what I’ll do. I’ll go gentle. I’ll heal and be well. And I’ll be happy with how much ever that is, and whatever it looks like. I’ll be happy knowing I cared for my body and for myself with helpful, healing movement.
I’ll hydrate. I’ll sit by the window and enjoy the sights and sounds of the bog, even though the sun is hiding behind a thick blanket of clouds a sprinkling rain today – the birds are still chirping, the bunnies are still munching, and the plant life gets greener with every drop of hydrating rain that falls.
Today is not a day I move mountains uphill. But that is ok. Today, like every day, I know that every lil bit I do for myself is better than not doing anything at all. I’ll do what I can, how I can, when I can … and that is a beautiful thing!
I will be enriched by even the smallest of my efforts! I will feel better!
Even now, thinking of you, I am smiling! I am feeling brighter! Even with just happy thoughts of you and a smile …
Empower yourself with the simple, healing, loving, self-caring, happiness-creating, growing-you truth:
Imbue this truth with helpful, supportive wisdoms and guidance:
“Progress, not perfection.” Jill Stante
Focus on what you can do right now to help yourself, mind, body, soul, light, love, energy, and being to cope and heal!
Well, sweet, beautiful blossom, I hope this juiciness is just what you and your heart needed to hear to day! I hope you feel my love and big hugs surrounding you with so much goodness, you feel yourself brightening being here with me. And I thank you so much for sharing this time with me. I give gratitude for this opportunity to help you find and grow – to be happy and well!
But for all the world, you wouldn’t know it. Not with how media, culture, our employment, and even our friendships pit us against one another.
I find myself having this conversation with every single one of my beautiful coaching souls. My friends. And I’ve had this conversation with my therapist. All of us are women … chicks of big hearts, open minds, … and feeling the negativity waged against us.
Seems like we’re never quite pretty enough, smart enough, do enough, help enough, give enough, go go go enough.
In the media we are told we need to drink more coffee, work out more, squeeze in more time to be better moms, wives, girlfriends, friends … cook more, clean more, get to work faster. It seems like our clothes are never nice enough. Our houses are never big enough. Our kids will only be happy if we get and buy them everything they want. So … of course, we’re going to need more money …
If only we would buy that cologne we could all smell sexy and be as beautiful as Charlize Theron, cuz without it, we’re just not as good.
You get the idea … the judgement negativity is everywhere, with the bottom line being, we’re never quite good enough if we don’t … do whatever it is they want us to do.
We lose our self-esteem, self-respect, self-love, self-worth. We learn to hate ourselves and the other lovely ladies around us, especially the ones who seem to be doing a better job at being Perfect.
Maybe she’s thinner. Maybe her hair is more lustrous. Maybe she seems to be able to do it all. And we loathe her for it.
You are glorious!!! You are beautiful!!! You have gifts, the likes we’ll never see again on this earth!!! You are unique and special!!! You are amazing!!!
You bring to us magic! And delight! And wisdom! Lessons learned. Experiences. Strength. Even in your moments of unstrength, your gifts are there, shining through, helping you cope in ways best suited to you. And we learn from you. We grow and flourish in your light. In your unique perspective. In how you see the world and brighten it. And for all that you do for us, we do it for you, too!
For we are strong and beautiful, and together, with our love shining so very brightly, our gifts complement each other making our lives and this world a brighter, more beautiful place to be!
Together, no longer judging … no longer criticizing, no longer stuck in the negativity structures forced upon us, together in love, kindness, compassion, caring, gratitude-giving … we see the goodness, the beauty in each other, and we know the truth:
Your beauty does not diminish my beauty, as my beauty doesn’t not diminish your beauty. Together, with love, our gifts complement each other making our lives and this world a brighter, more beautiful place to be!
PS: If you and your heart are moved by the loveliness of this digi-painting and you would love a copy for yourself, click here.
I don’t know if what I’m about to say is going to resonate
with you or not, but I hope so, because I believe it 100% through and through
from my heart to my bones and back!
The only relationship in your life and this whole wide world you have complete control over is the relationship you have with yourself.
You can choose to love yourself. And like yourself. Or not. But I hope you do. I know this isn’t always an easy thing. Especially when you’re down and going through rough times. But if ever there was a time when you needed yourself more, I don’t know when that is.
Find something. Anything that you like about yourself and focus on it. Grow it until it glows inside of you. Until it’s something you love about yourself!
And if you can’t even think of one thing, then think of something that you’ve always seen in others, something that you like and want to be. And find a way to be it. Grow it. Live it. And you will have something you love about you!
It’s a great place to start!
And if you already have a list in your head of all the things you like and love about yourself – wonderful! Write it down! Remind yourself often! Trust me, the reaffirmation is a GOOD THING!!!
I know so many people who can say that they are their own worst enemy, or their harshest critic. I used to be one of them. Why do we do this to ourselves. To make ourselves better? To challenge ourselves? To force ourselves to reach higher limits?
I stopped treating myself this way, because it’s such a negative way to try to accomplish growth. And I’ve learned, negativity in gets negativity out. When we criticize ourselves to improve ourselves, the improvement comes with a shadow founded in something akin to self-loathing. How can that ever be loving growth for ourselves?
Taking care of ourselves requires a willingness to invest in who we are and who we want to become. Do we want to be happy? Do we want to be healthy? Will will care enough about ourselves to build happiness and healthiness into our lives? Will we respect ourselves with positive reinforcement, reaffirmation, and acknowledgement of our strengths and give ourselves patience for the things we need or want to work on?
Will we be brave enough to grow ourselves into the lovely people we want to be? Can we find kindness in our hearts to be kind to ourselves and give ourselves room to grow and learn and live, one moment, one day, one heartbeat at a time?
And when we get stuck, or have trouble, or fall, or even fail when trying on something new, or trying to grow ourselves and our lives stronger, will we see that we are human and perfection is impossible (and exhausting)? Will we respect ourselves, love ourselves, be kind to ourselves, and forgive ourselves, so we live and learn, and grow and move on to become brighter blossoms?
Will we set goals that we empower ourselves to reach by:
thinking each goal through
determining what steps we need to take to make each goal a reality
and then activating an action plan to take the necessary steps to make each of these goals a reality?
Or will we set ourselves up for failure, by putting expectations on ourselves with no course of action to achieve them?
In the simple truth that is:
The only relationship in my life that I have complete control over is the relationship I have with me, we each have choices. And as undeniable facts go, there is simply no one in your life you will spend more time with than you. Everywhere you go, there you are.
Every waking moment. Every sleeping moment.
Every happy moment. Every sad or angry moment.
Every accomplishment and triumph. Every failure.
Wherever you are, whatever you do, the only person who will always be there with you, will be you.
Wouldn’t it, sweet wonderful blossom and dear love … wouldn’t it be wonderful, if for all of these moments you could share time with your best friend, biggest supporter and fan, the love of your life? Someone who makes you feel happy and good and loved. Someone who cares completely about you. Someone who would drop everything to be there for you.
Well, the good news is that you can. Because you can choose to be your own best friend!!!
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Here’s a happy opportunity to have a self-caring chat with yourself. Take this quiet moment to acknowledge yourself. Share with yourself the goodness you see in yourself, or the goodness you want to grow in you. It can be a starting point. A moment of reaffirmation. Whatever you need it to be. All you have to do is click on the image below and print, and you can write to yourself your thoughts and words. It’s a moment just for you!
Loving you so big and brightly!!! I’m sending you light and love to hug you the biggest!!! May you spend your day hanging out with your best friend!
Love and Big Hugs,
More Happiness from Mary Kate
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Get Your POSitude On!
Feel happier! Supported! Loved! Hugged!
Bring brightness and goodness into your day, and into your life!
What beautiful souls like you think about their POSitude cards!
These cards are colorful and cheerful! They stay on my desk at work and have made for great conversation with colleagues. I look forward to choosing my daily pick me up. I reflect on my current mood or what inspiration I need for the day. I do have a few favorites that I’ve used more than once or have displayed longer than just a day.
These cards remind me to stay positive and believe in myself!
Stephanie Shay, 4th grade teacher
I love my POSitude cards! I pick one to display on my refrigerator for the week. Reading the card makes me happy and gives me a variety of ways to stay positive in my daily life. It has also become a conversation piece for all who enter my kitchen.
Karen Henry, Retired 4th Grade Teacher, Personal Assistant
The Positude
cards have
made a difference for setting the
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the meeting table and while we are settling in, people pick them up and read
them. This small gesture makes a huge difference in the
quality of the conversations we have during our 1:1 meetings.
Mary Freer, University Research Department Administrator
I love my POSitude cards! They are so cute, and the messages are very uplifting and inspiring!
Mary McMurtry, Retired Bookkeeper, Mom, Grandmom
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