Create Positive, Functional Relationships to Cope and Heal!

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Hello Sweet Beautiful Blossoms!

Today is sort of an impromptu post.  I have lots and lots of planned posts and things to say, which I will definitely keep on writing, but for this quickie moment in time, I’m reading this incredibly helpful book called, The Body Keeps The Score.  In the short of it, it’s about trauma and recovery, but in the long of it, it shares juicy, Amaze-balls insight into mental and emotional health, biology (structure & function), healing, and the healthcare system approach to treating mental and emotional challenges.  … It ain’t light reading, but it’s worthy reading!  So … I’m reading today … and something I read resonated SO BIG and SO DEEP I just had to share with you!!!

More to the point, it says these positive, functional relationships are critical for healing and coping.

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

I’m gonna paraphrase from the book here (I’m in CH 5 for those of you who are so inclined to dig into the book yourselves.):

And there’s a hair-bit more of super importance:

There are 2 main reasons why I decided to jot down my thoughts on this for you:

Throughout Covid, I’ve been forced to navigate my anxieties and fears and my increasingly complex health challenges, and as a way to navigate and cope, I:

  • joined a women’s circle
  • started doing YogaWithAdriene
  • invested in my mental, emotional, and physical health (a relationship I have with myself … that in all honesty covers everything I’m doing here … I have committed to myself and my wellness.)
  • started working with wellness and success coaches that are positive peeps for me to work with
  • distanced myself from toxic information
  • returned to therapy after 20 years
  • am growing my knowledge of women’s health and the effects of inflammation
  • adopted anti-inflammation eating and living habits

I’m taking positive actions for myself and surrounding myself with positive, functional relationships, and IT’S WORKING!!!!

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

As part of the above, I said I’m growing my knowledge about women’s health and the effects of inflammation … and what I’m reading in this book supports a very important aspect of being able to reduce inflammation (which, honestly, if you’re a blossom – an estrogen-producing, vagina-bearing individual [EPVBI … or some new acronym yet to be determined] … YOU MUST KNOW … you very likely have elevated inflammation … and this means, you are prone to developing a host of unfriendly health challenges … like the Big C, heart disease, stroke, etc … but more details of this are for another post … lots of them.)

Therefore, surrounding yourself with positive, functional relationships will not only make you FEEL better in the happiness department, it will help you BE HEALTHIER in every way.

Make friends.  Surround yourself with people who love and support you.  Who will see and hear you for who you are.  Who will connect with you.

If your current tribe is not serving you … aka supporting you … seek and build a new tribe.

That’s what I am doing, and it’s working!

It won’t happen overnight.  It will take time.  But you are worth it!

And that is my impromptu message of love and big hugs for you today!

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Oh … I just want to add, I know this can be easier said than done … I am human after all … the challenges of first of all valuing yourself enough to commit to yourself can be a doozy, and then once you value yourself, quitting or navigating toxic relationships is hard.  I know.

So what I’m saying here is LOVE YOU to Be Well.  Baby steps with the big goal in mind!  Start small.  Remember: “Progress, Not Perfection” (Jill Stante).

Try starting with either growing a new positive, functional relationship, or by reducing time in a toxic one.  And then keep loving you and moving forward!!!

And say this next Positude out loud to yourself to remind yourself … daily … frequently … as much as you need until it’s grown deep inside you with knowing:

Positive, functional relationships, anti-inflammation, health. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Hope this helps!  Thank you, always, for being here with me and sharing this growing time together!!!!

Big Love and Big Hugs!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

Recipe Revamp (Low Sugar) Spicy Orange Anti-Inflammatory Dream Crackers

Recipe Revamp (low sugar) Spicy Orange Anti-Inflammatory Dream Crackers. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Spicy Orange Anti-Inflammatory Dream Crackers

  • ½ c butter (good fat of your choice, but butter tastes so good)
  • 3 eggs
  • 1 Tbsp blackstrap molasses
  • 1 Tbsp turmeric
  • 1Tbsp ground ginger
  • 1 Tbsp ground black pepper
  • 2 tsp cinnamon
  • ½ tsp orange extract
  • ½ tsp salt
  • ½ tsp baking soda
  • 1 ½ c cassava flour
  • 4 small splashes of milk (it’s what I needed to help my dough stick together better, can try without and add at the end if you need/like)

In mixing bowl, add butter, eggs, molasses, orange extract, and milk. Mixy blend well.

In another small bowl, combine and mix well: turmeric, ginger, pepper, cinnamon, salt, and baking soda.  Add to wet, and mixy blend well.

Finally add in cassava flour and mixy blend well.  You should have a big ol’ clump of wetter than dry batter that you can roll out easily.

Roll dough flat (1/8″ – ¼” inch thick).

Devour!

MK thoughts and notes:

This recipe actually comes from my holiday search for cookies.  I found this Paleo Anti Inflammatory Spice Cookie recipe at All the Nourishing Things website, and as I read the recipe, I thought …. Hmm, this could make a tasty cracker to go along with bone broths, soups, green drinks, etc.  A quick scan of the ingredients and the decision to delete the sugar (except keep the molasses) and add a pinch of salt for baking, and I was off and running.

I followed Lindsey’s instructions, except that I found the dough to be a bit dry toward the end for me, so I added some splashes of milk to get it to hold together more (you could use water instead if you need to, or perhaps a bit more egg).  I didn’t roll mine out so much as smoosh them flat with a spatula, and then cut with a pizza cutter.  But they tasted SOMIGOSH GOOD, that I’ve already made a few batches and will keep making them.  I’ve changed up the mixy directions a lil bit for ease and convenience to me, but pretty much, Lindsey is on point.

The short of it is this … if you want the cookie for a healthier alternative, keep the sugar … I’m certain you won’t be disappointed.  And if you want an excellent tasting cracker (that sounds delicious with some cream cheese … next up on my list to try), then this Spicy Orange Anti-Inflammatory Dream Cracker is just the cracker you are looking for!

My very happy tastebuds give tremendous gratitude to All the Nourishing Things for making my dream cracker dreams comes true!  Be sure to check out Lindsey Dietz’s website for more delicious goodies … she’s on this healthy thing SO GOOD!!!!  And she gives great guidance and helpful healthy info along with her recipes!!!!  I’m absoloodily thrilled to have found her!!!!

Recipe Revamp (low sugar) Spicy Orange Anti-Inflammatory Dream Crackers. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs. My plate of dream crackers with my green drink!

I sincerely hope you enjoy these as much as I do!

Living an anti-inflammatory life is the way to go for happiness and healthiness, and these crackers (or cookies, if you prefer) are a great addition to your wellness living!

Hugging you so big today!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth
MK’s Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for YOU!

Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Hello hungry, happy hearts!

Flu/cold season is here.  A day doesn’t go by that I’m not reading about one of my peeps falling down to a mean bug of some sort.  Ugh!  I hate being sick!!!  So let’s talk about one of the most healing foods you can ever eat:

Chicken Bone Broth!

Why is chicken bone broth so healing?  Well for starters, it’s chockful of helpful, healing proteins like collagen and gelatin.  These help your intestines, skin, and joint health. 

Your intestines are Super Important for your immune system, so if you keep your gut healthy, it will help you stay healthy and fight illness and injury better.  Which is wonderful and amazing!!!  Plus, who doesn’t love glowing, healthy skin, and joints that move?

Additionally, if you add salt to your broth while cooking and/or to taste afterwards, the salt and the hydration provided by the bone broth will help maintain and restore your electrolytic balance, which can get wonky when you’re sick.  Have you ever had achy muscles and spasms while sick?  That’s often your body telling you your electrolytes are wonky, or that you are dehydrated.  I used to drink sports drinks to help, but they’re filled with sugars and artificial colorings.  Bone broth is a healthier choice!!!

Also, the hydration helps heal damaged membranes, and SUPER BIG TIME, the hydration helps you flush the bug out!!!  YES, PLEASE!!!

The warm broth and salt can help soothe a sore throat, too.  Also, I add table pepper while cooking, and to taste at the table.  This helps loosen congestion big time.  I love this for helping with my allergies, too.  I gobble my soup and keep the tissues handy.  I love when I can breathe freely again!

So with that, I just want to add … don’t think bone broth is just for kicking bugs to the curb.

It’s SO MUCH MORE!

Bone broth is a super anti-inflammatory, healing food.  When you need to heal from illness, injury, stress, life, etc., bone broth is my go-to and at the top of my healing list along with blueberries, walnuts, broccoli, and sustainably, wild-caught salmon.  Help your body heal, so you can feel better faster!!!

Let’s talk recipe!

My bone-brothing method of choice: the slow cooker.  I love tossing everything into the pot, and letting it do it’s thing.

My recipe will take you veggie prep time + 12 hours of cooking time + rapid cooling time, and an overnight chill.

Here’s what you’ll need:  (I have an 8 qt slow cooker, but I’ve also used a 3 qt.  I’m going to put the quantities for the 3 qt cooker in (parentheses), so you can still make it easily if you’re going small batch.)

  • (2 lbs) 4 lbs chicken wings
  • (3) 5 carrots
  • (3) 5 celery sticks
  • (1/2 – 1) 1 medium/large onion
  • (1 ½) 3 tablespoons apple cider vinegar
  • Water
  • Salt and Pepper

Here’s what you do:  See pictures below for fun, happy visuals!

  • Clean and prep your veggies however you like.  Some folks I know rinse and toss them in whole, skins and all.  That’s not me.  I’m a peel-my-carrots, cut-off-the-tops-of-my-carrots-and-celery, and peel-off-the-outer-skin-layer-to-my-onions kind of girl.  You do you, and it will work out just fine!
  • Layer your chicken wings into the bottom of your pot.
  • Add in veggies.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Place chicken and veggies in slow cooker.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Add water, apple cider vinegar, salt, & pepper. Cover and turn heat on.
  • Fill with water (for the big pot, that’s about 18 – 20 cups of water.  Can’t remember the small pot.  Maybe 8 – 10 cups?).
  • Add in apple cider vinegar!!!  If this sounds wonky, it’s not.  It’s IMPORTANT!!!  You’ll never taste it in the end – trust me.  I have the most sensitive taste buds you can imagine, and I can’t taste it.  I’m the kid who’ll turn up her nose at chocolate cake made with sour cream, cuz I can taste it … blehcky.  So I promise you.  You won’t taste the apple cider vinegar.  But it’s necessary to help extract all that healing bone protein goodness!!! So DO IT!!!
  • Shake in some salt and pepper.  I add a couple of shakes to start here in the cooking process, but leave the real seasoning for at the table.  That way peeps can control their salt intake better.  Plus, some days I like more salt and pepper to taste, and other days, I go mild.  I like having eating-time options.
  • Cover with the lid.  Turn the heat on high until it comes to a simmer.  Turn heat to low.  Cook for 12 hours!
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
After 12 hours of cooking.
  • Scoop out chunks and pour through strainer into big bowl.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Spoon out big chunks, then pour through strainer to get smaller bits out.
  • Cool using an ice bath.  Takes about 10 minutes.  This step is a safety step.  When I was researching bone broth recipes, I learned lots.  And chefs are particularly dedicated to safe handling.  They encourage using an ice bath to rapidly bring down the temp of the broth, preventing bacterial growth that can happen during slow cooling.  Also, putting simmering hot soup straight into your fridge or freezer to cool, raises the temp inside your fridge or freezer significantly and can affect your other foods.  So, again.  You do you.  If you have a soup making cooling method you love … go with it! Whatever works for you! I do the ice bath to especially not have to put the hot soup right into my fridge.
  • Remove from ice bath, then Cover and place into your fridge overnight.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Rapid cool in ice bath for safest cooling.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
After overnight chill in fridge, gently scrape off solid fat.
  • Gently scrape off excess fat. You will reveal the gelatinous, happy, healthy, healing bone broth goodness!!!!
  • You can now heat up your portion and salt, pepper, and season to taste … and devour!!!  I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE adding thyme to my soup!  It’s my favorite, and I think it makes the most delicious broth.  If you want to give it a try, I usually add a few good shakes to my bowl after I heat it up, and then I devour it!!! Thyme also has wonderful healing benefits – so added tasty, healing bonus!
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
The gelatinous goodness you see is your bone broth telling you did a perfect job! This bone broth is ready to heat, season, and serve, or turn into chicken soup to serve!

Okay.  So.  From the gelatinous state, you can totally heat, sip, and devour your chicken bone broth as is.  Orrrrrrrrrrr, if you like, you can turn it into chicken/veggie bone broth soup!  This is what I do almost every time!

You can add whatever you want: baked/boiled chicken chunks, veggies, noodles, rice, herbs, etc.  I will say this, though, the closer you stick to broth, veggies, and herbs, the more you maintain the anti-inflammatory nature of the soup.  Adding in chicken, rice, and/or noodles would minimize that effect a bit.  For instance, all rice – organic, brown, wild, … all – has arsenic in it.  There are tolerable limits for arsenic in your weekly diet (usually no more than 2 servings of rice per week), but if you are using the bone broth for its healing qualities, you may want to consider NOT adding in foods that diminish its awesome power.

At this stage for me, I’m definitely an “I eyeball it” kinda girl.  For my big pot of stock, I usually add:

  • 3 cleaned, trimmed, peeled, and sliced carrots
  • 3 cleaned, trimmed, and sliced celery sticks
  • ½ – ¾ diced yellow onion
  • 1 tablespoon of the chicken fat I removed earlier (you can use a veggie oil if you prefer)
  • Salt, pepper, and thyme to taste, at the table
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Make chicken soup! Gently heat veggies and oil over low-medium heat for about 5 minutes. Then add in gelatinous bone broth. Simmer on low for 30 minutes.

Here’s what I do:

  • I gently cook/soften the veggies in the chicken fat; over low-medium heat; for about 5 – 10 minutes.
  • Add in the gelatinous bone broth, 1 cup measuring scoop at a time.  (There is usually a layer of fine particulate “sludge” at the bottom of the pan, which I do not use.  It looks sludgy to me, and that gets my nose rolled up at it … I wash it down the drain.  You can decide for yourself what you want to do with it.  Use it or toss it.)
  • Bring to simmer.  Cook for about 30 – 40 minutes.
  • Portion and serve.  Add salt, pepper, and thyme to taste.  YUMMO!!!
  • At this time, I usually portion all remaining soup into lidded, glass, individual-serving-size freezer bowls.  And then I put all these extra servings in the freezer, making them quick gets for any time I want or need some YUMMO soup and healing power!!!
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Season to taste – ready – DEVOUR!!!

Now that you are empowered to make your very own chicken bone broth, let’s talk about some thoughts and considerations that might be important to you:

  • Given that you are making bone broth in which you intend to cook down to the bone and extract the healthy goodness, it is advisable to use the best quality ingredients to fully enhance and ensure healthy goodness.  Consider organic, free-range chicken and organic veggies, apple cider vinegar, pepper, and herbs.  If ever there was a time to cook pesticide-, added hormones-, and antibiotic-free, this is it.  Cooking down to the bone pulls these contaminants out even more, and that’s not in your best health interest.  I have calculated my cost (using entirely organic and free-range ingredients) at $1 – $2 a serving (depending on how big of a bowl I want!!!  Sometimes I eat a double serving, cuz it’s that good!!!)  Even at $2 a bowl, this is not a lot to spend on healthy goodness (especially when you think of what you pay for a serving of fast food these days).
  • If you prefer adding in herbs or other veggies earlier on (things like bay leaves, garlic, leeks, etc., for instance), go for it!  It’s your soup.  Make it yours!!!  For me, I like the delicious flavor of a simple broth enhanced with some thyme, salt, and pepper.  That’s me.  What do your taste buds want?  Do that!!!
  • A 12 hour cook time is actually on the shorter end of cooking time for bone broths.  My research found that you can actually cook chicken bone broth up to 72 hours.  Duuuuuude!  Like I’m gonna wait that long!  LOL.  Actually, there’s 2 real notes here.  One, the longer you cook your broth, the more gelatinous goodness you will extract.  This can definitely be a good thing!!!  Two, if you cook your veggies longer than 12 hours, they will get bitter and mess with the flavoring of your broth.  If you plan to cook longer than 12 hours, you can either try scooping out just the veggies (sounds miserable in even trying) or you could bind them in a cooking cheesecloth bag or something for easy extraction.  Just know that if you desire to cook your broth longer to get more of the gelatinous protein healing goodness, you will want an action plan for getting the veggies out after 12 hours to avoid having the soup get bitter with the veggies.
  • I saw some recipes in which peeps blended up the cooked veggies to “add nutritional value and extra thickness” to the broth.  I’ll leave this one up to you.  What I can tell you is that after cooking the veggies for 12 hours, I tasted them to see if they were still “usable” and yummy.  My answer is a resounding NO – they’re yucky!!!  After 12 hours of cooking, I feel they have been used of all their goodness and are ready to be disposed of.  To me, if you want to add new, fresh veggies for new nutritious and yummy goodness, that’s the way to make delicious soup from the broth.
  • A quick ice bath cautionary: when you fill up your sink or a tub with ice and water to make your ice bath, please note, that when you put your broth/pan into the ice bath, it might have buoyancy. Be prepared to hold it steady or have some help. It would totally suck to spill your broth into your ice bath after all that cooking.

And that should do it! You are bone brothing ready!!! Get in there and make yourself some happy, healthy, healing goodness to warm you and delight your taste buds!!! And heal you right on up!!!

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May you tackle this flu/cold season illness free! May your holiday season be filled with laughter, love, kindness, gratitude, and joy! Thank you for being here with me … I love spending this time with you!!!

Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.