How a Treasured Friendship Lost Gave Me Something Life Changing to be Grateful for!
(… and how it’s made my life a happier and better place to be!)

How a treasured friendship lost gave me something life changing to be grateful for!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.

Hello Beautiful Blossoms!

I have a Thanksgiving story of Gratitude-Giving to share with you.  It’s all about how a treasured friendship lost gave me something life changing to be grateful for, and how it’s made my life a happier and better place to be!

Treasured friendship lost

Has it ever happened to you?  You’ve had a friendship with someone who simply brightened your heart with so much happiness and big smiles, who made a positive difference in your life, but then time, distance, circumstance … life … happens and your friendship is lost, but the love is still in your heart?

It has happened to me with great sadness.  I will miss my friend forever, but I am grateful for every wonderful, life changing gift I got from our friendship.

I know I’m not alone in this as I’ve talked to other gorgeous souls who have experienced friendship loss as well.  We talk about how great it was when we had our friend in our lives, and invariably the conversation always drifts to wondering … What went wrong?  What happened?  Why did our friend let go?  Sometimes we get answers.  Sometimes we don’t.  Sometimes we can reconnect.  Sometimes we can’t.

My thoughts for my friend-lost and my shared wisdom to the gorgeous souls I talk to … I take from the book/movie Eat, Pray, Love … send them your light and love and wish them well wherever they are in the world and in whatever they are doing.  I feel this truly and deeply in the depths of my soul.  Yes!  For as much as I miss my friend, there is a reason I miss her so much – she was a delight in my life – and I wish her goodness, healthiness, and love in all that she does, even if it means without me.

For as much sadness as I’ve felt from the loss of this friendship, I have so much to be grateful for, and especially as it is Thanksgiving and a time for Gratitude-Giving, I want to share with you the amazing life changing gifts I received that made this friendship so worth the pain of losing it.

Life changing gifts

To start, I am grateful for every single day I got to spend with my friend … for all our laughter, shared love, shared wisdom, shared goals, shared philosophies, supporting one another … the absolute delight of feeling fully connected to another person in this giant lonely world and getting to spend time with her.  What a gift!

And she gave me another gift; one I never saw coming.  It changed my life, forever.  She gave me the gift of encouragement.  It helped me grow a new confidence in myself I’d never had.  She saw a creative talent in me that I didn’t feel was worthy of sharing.  She disagreed.  She told me my art looked like me.  It had all my happiness in it.  That my art was a visual embodiment of my voice. 

Then, she gave me the gift of knowing … she taught me how to use Adobe Photoshop and Illustrator.

I started out slowly.  Figuring out the digi-tech part of art.  Playing around.  Birthing a new craft.  And as my confidence grew, I tried new and bigger things.

Mary Kate Kopec Love and Big Hugs

Living my gifts

And this is how Lub’s Very Happy Day story came about!

A few years ago, while we were still friends, I decided to create a children’s story and share it with her as a prezzie.  She – like me – loves children’s picture books to fall asleep to.  … You know how life can be stressful?  Well, at nighttime, you want to fall asleep, not being stressed.  You need to let go and relax.  You want to go to bed with good juju running around in your head so you can have happy dreams, not stressy ones.  A novel, although a very happy escape … if you get sucked in (we’re talking hours of awesome reading), you lose sleep and rest.  So to help us calm down, me and my friend love to read happy kid’s books.  They’re quick.  Cute.  Fun.  Often silly and squee.  And help you calm down and sleep sweet. 

So I thought, hey, why don’t I write a cute, happy kid’s book for us to enjoy before sleepy-time?  I wanted it to be filled with happy images of favorite things.  So that’s exactly what I did.

  • I love cute monsters – so of course Lub would have to be adorable.
  • I love PINK – so, lol, of course – Lub’s the PINKest monster, EVER!
  • I love LOVE.  Love in all it’s kindness.  Giving and sharing.  Compassion.  Big Heartedness.  Playfulness.  Silliness.  All of it!
  • I love nature and being outdoors.  The sunshine.  The woodland creatures.  Adorable buggy boos.  The flowers and the trees.  And oh how I love bright, sunny, warm blue skies with fluffy cotton ball clouds floating by … and all the imaginary shapes I can see!
  • I love reading, creating, playing, eating healthy snacks.
  • I love spending happy time with friends and loved ones.

So of course, Lub’s Very Happy Day! is inspired and guided by all this love and happy goodness.  It’s filled with delightful brightness and big huggy smiles! (It’s self-care in picture form!)

I can’t look at Lub & her picture pages without smiling so big!  For me, she has that silly something that just makes me feel better instantly. :0)

Lub was born from all my squeelightful monstery pink-hearted happiness and giddy clapping to brighten our days and sweeten our nights!  Her very presence on paper is a silly monsterification of all the giddy love in my heart!  And she’s been keeping me company at bedtime ever since.

Not too long ago, a friend – who is also a retired elementary school teacher – was visiting me, and we were in my studio.  She saw Lub’s book, and she smiled huge (Lub will do that to you!).  My teacher friend asked me about Lub; what her story was; and how it came about.  She started flipping through the pages, and page after page, her smile grew bigger.  She told me I should publish the story.  That she thought it was really good!

I was all like, “Really? … Like share with other people kind of good?”  I had written it for fun and bedtime positive imagery, never thinking to put Lub into the world.

But my friend insisted. 

I was moderately convinced.  My artwork in my personal copy was from my first days in the digi-painting world.  My doodlebug fingers hadn’t grown their confidence bones quite yet, back then.  So I asked around to other school teachers I know.  Every single time I got the same thing.  Share Lub!  She’s adorable and so happy and so fun!!!

Fueled by all the excitement of how easily other peeps were falling in love with Lub, I decided to update the artwork.  For as much as I loved her and everybody else seemed to be loving her, too, I knew my art could be cuter with my improved and more experienced doodlebug digi-skills.

Along with redrawing and updating all of Lub’s artwork, I learned that Amazon print services requires a minimum of 24 pages.  Lub’s story fell short, as I hadn’t written it to meet any page requirements.  I thought about the power of creativity and coloring and art to sooth, heal, detress, reduce anxiety, and relax, so I decided to add in some Lub coloring and activity pages for fun. 

How a treasured friendship lost gave me something life changing to be grateful for! Lub's Very Happy Day! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

And voila!  Here we are today.  Lub’s Very Happy Day is a story come to life to share happiness and love with like-minded and pink-hearted monsters who are giddy clapping for more POSitude and happiness to brighten their days and sweeten their dreams.

My life: a happier and better place to be!

This is how a treasured friendship lost gave me something life changing to be grateful for!  And how it’s made my life a happier and better place to be!  I have learned how to be a digi-art doodlebug!  I’ve grown my skill with experience.  And I’ve gained confidence in my doodlebug digi-art skills and having a visual voice to share my love and happiness with you!  I feel this is a gift that pays forward.  Now that I’m digi-art doodlebug, I have another medium to share all my Love and Big Hugs with you, and this makes me so very happy!!!  Especially as, let’s face it … most of us are visual people.  A picture is worth a thousand words.  And my art is me all over the page sharing all the PINKness in my heart to help you feel better, more loved, happier, and healthier.  And this is gratitude in my heart!!!

I hope you give yourself the gift of Love and Big Hugs all day long today on this Thanksgiving day!  And every day.  May your day be filled with love, happiness, and healthiness, and may you be surrounded by peeps who get you, love you, and cherish you for all the goodness in your heart!

How a treasured friendship lost gave me something life changing to be grateful for! Lub's Very Happy Day! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Lub is the happiest, PINKest, most love-filled monster, Ever! Her big, PINK heart is always with her, and it beams brightly in everything she does!

How a treasured friendship lost gave me something life changing to be grateful for! Lub's Very Happy Day! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Lub loves you!

Join Lub as she shares with you her love and very happy, monster-ifically delightful day! Feel playful and bright, smile big, and be happy! Have fun and be cheerful as Lub lovingly models healthy behaviors, like:

  • Being happy
  • Smiling big
  • Having fun
  • Being kind
  • Spending fun time with oneself
  • Having independence/self-reliance
  • Being imaginative
  • Having positive friendships
  • Napping
  • Eating well
  • Having compassion
  • Enjoying silliness
  • Valuing companionship
  • Being grateful

Watch your child’s face brighten with big smiles at every adorable page turn. Kiss them goodnight with happiness floating in their heads and big smiles filling their hearts!

Additional Features of Lub’s Very Happy Day:

  • Adorable, bright, full color, happy art and images spark big smiles
  • 6 Delightfully fun coloring activity pages included
  • Positive, lighthearted, and encouraging
  • Fun to read and experience

Feel Lub’s love, happiness, and fun! Bring her home to share now!

How a treasured friendship lost gave me something life changing to be grateful for! Lub's Very Happy Day! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Find more gratitude, POSitude, and Self-Care from me at Etsy!

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Feel happier! Supported! Loved! Hugged!

Bring brightness and goodness into your day, and into your life!

Get inspired every day with a deck of my new POSitude cards! Available in my Etsy shop. Check them out and learn more, now!

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Until next week …

Happy Thanksgiving! I am grateful for you! Big loving you and hugging you tight!

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate
How a treasured friendship lost gave me something life changing to be grateful for! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Grow your happiness with smiles!

Happiness: Grow yours with smiles! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Hello Sweet Beautiful Rays of Sunshine!

Today, you get to ask yourself a powerful question: Do I want to be happy? … Don’t let this scare you off. I know I was super direct. But it’s a real and worthy question. That can sometimes be a bit scary. Please don’t be scared. I’m right here with you!!! We can do this together!!! Cuz I love you Big, and I’m holding you tight!!! We can grow your happiness with smiles!

I don’t need to tell you – I’m betting you already know:  there’s a lot of unhappiness in the world.  And it’s impacting so many of us.  Even the brightest of souls can get hit.  If you are a soul that has been feeling unhappy a lot, or even a little, lately, and you want to feel more happiness in your life again … the first step is acknowledging you are ready to feel happiness again.

So … are you ready to feel happiness again?

If so … let’s talk Smiles!

Now, I’m not gonna sit here and try to sell you on a smile, telling you it will fix everything.  I, mean, come on, let’s be real.  Life can deal some serious blows.  Bigger things than a smile alone can heal and fix. 

But, a smile is POWERFUL!

Grow your happiness with smiles. It’s been proven and shown in study after study after study to make big POSITIVES happen in your life.  The simple act of smiling can lift your mood, alter your brain chemistry, lower your stress, boost your immune system.  Umm … yes, please … to all of this!

Here are just a few of the articles written about it … in case you want to check it out for yourself.

Neuroscience Says Doing This 1 Thing Makes You Just as Happy as Eating 2,000 Chocolate Bars

Smiling can trick your brain into happiness – and boost your health

Smile! It Could Make You Happier

But really … do we need to skootch off to read about it?  Why don’t we just try it?  Like right now?  You know.  Smile, and see how it makes you feel.

Here, I even have a POSitude to share with you to guide you through it. LOL. Like, you’ve never smiled before. (Althooooough … maybe???? … Just kidding.)

Actually, in this POSitude, I take it up a notch … I like doing that. I try to get as much bang as possible for my happiness investment bucks. So I’ve added a little moment of self-reaffirmation to go along with the smile. Give it a try … it’s feel-good in like 5 seconds … it’s deliciously delightful!

Happiness: Grow yours with smiles!  POSitude. Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
POSitude card from Mary Kate’s deck of POSitude cards available at Etsy

So. Here we go. Ready? SMILE!

How’d it go? How are you feeling? … Little bit better? Maybe even a smidge better than a little bit better?

Well, we’ll take that, won’t we?!!!

Grow your happiness with smiles. A smile is one of the ways we can improve our happiness – and it’s a powerful one!  If we practice smiling (and even taking it up a notch with a little extra self-reaffirmation) throughout the day … each day … every day … we can build a happiness and healthiness habit that can accumulate goodness, happiness, and healing in our lives.

With this, you can add SMILES to your Healing Toolkit of Goodness to be used daily and even more for extra tough times.

Remember. Happiness doesn’t come from the absence of darkness or bad things happening in life … although sure, that could help SO MUCH!!!! The thing is, life is gonna happen. It’s just how it rolls. But happiness comes through in us in how we deal with life. How we cope. How we approach life and choose to be.

If you want to be happy, you can be! Step by step. Practice by practice. Habit by habit. And smiling is a great and powerful place to start!

Grow your happiness with smiles. I love smiling. I love how it feels. I love how it sparks smiles in others. And I love how easy it is to do. I love how quickly it brightens my face and lifts my heart and my mood. I love how it grows my happiness and helps me heal! I love that it’s a quick and easy practice like Practicing Gratitude to help me grow and heal and feel happiness in my life. I hope sharing these practices and habits with you will help you grow and heal and feel happiness in your life, too!

Create and Grow Your Self-Care!

Want to dig even deeper into your Self-Care? Snag your copy of my “Mary Kate’s Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!”

Mary Kate'es Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!

When you find yourself feeling low, negative, unhappy – doubting yourself – maybe your confidence has taken a bit of a tumble & your self-worth is low …

Grab my Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!

You can start feeling better and start smiling again!

Filled with empathetic & supportive Love and Big Hugs!

Delightfully cheerful & colorful art will lift & brighten your smile!

14 loving, big hugging, and supporting pages include proven feel better strategies:

  • Reaffirmations & Positive Self-Talk
  • Gratitude Acknowledgements
  • Smiling POSitudes
  • Additional supporting ideas to help you find your calm and happiness again through self-care and self-love
  • Bonus Love-You Supports and Resources section
Mary Kate'es Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!
MKs Be Kind to You Interactive Self Care Love Letter to You Get Now button

Find more gratitude, POSitude, and Self-Care from me at Etsy!

You can also check out my new ETSY shop!!!

Get Your POSitude On!

Feel happier! Supported! Loved! Hugged!

Bring brightness and goodness into your day, and into your life!

Get inspired every day with a deck of my new POSitude cards! Available in my Etsy shop. Check them out and learn more, now!

Promo Image of POSitude cards on Etsy

Until next week …

I’m smiling big and brightly and sending you the love in my heart! I’m holding and hugging you tight! May your day be filled with BIG Smiles, lots of love, and some giggles sprinkled in!
Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate
Happiness: Grow yours with smiles! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Practicing Gratitude for the win! Do it! Feel better!

Practicing Gratitude.  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.

Hello Gorgeous Blossoms!!!

Life happens.  And sometimes it happens to not be nice about it.  We can feel stress, frustration, anger, … a whole range of negative emotions … none of which are actually helpful.  Most are usually hurtful, in fact.

It can be so easy to give into the negative emotions.  So incredibly satisfying.  When we’ve had a really bad day.  Our boss was crap.  A human we had to interact with was an aaaabbb-so-lute jerk.  A relationship we’re in is in trouble.  Sometimes there’s nothing better than a GINORMOUS VENT.  Or even a hard cry.

Processing emotions is vital and important to our well-being: emotional, mental, physical, … all of it.

I’m no saint.  Even with all my positive determination, I have things happen to me that take me down.  Some harder than others.  I have to process what has happened; how it makes me feel; and what it takes for me to cope, get through it, grow, and move on.

I’ve learned, being an active processor (with a toolkit of positive strategies) helps me to work my way through difficult times, crap moments, and mean people.  It also helps me avoid the negative downward spiral and negative self-talk that I can be an expert at heaping on myself.  It also helps me simply live a happier, healthier, more resilient life.

And one of my favorite toolkit strategies is practicing GRATITUDE!!!  I practice it daily.  Plus, it’s in my Healing Toolkit of Goodness for when I take a hit in life, big or small.

Practicing Gratitude

Give the gift of gratitude.  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.

Practicing gratitude has been shown to actually alter your brain chemistry (for the better) & improve your mood and life!

“According to UCLA’s Mindfulness Awareness Research Center, regularly expressing gratitude (the quality of being thankful and readiness to show appreciation) literally changes the molecular structure of the brain, keeps the gray matter functioning, and makes us healthier and happier.”

Thrive Global

“In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. People feel and express gratitude in multiple ways.”

Harvard Health

With practice, you can make gratitude a habit and experience positive, long-term effects on your happiness, healthiness, and your life!

So.  What are you waiting for???  Let’s get you Gratituding like an expert!!!

Practicing Gratitude is really easy.  All you have to do is think of something you are grateful for today; focus on it for a lil’ bit; maybe smile while you’re thinking about it; and if you want to take it up a notch, take a deep breath in and then let it out slowly while you are doing your positive gratitude thinking!

And that’s it.  Like.  Not hard.  So easy. 

gratitude invocation Mary Kate Kopec Love and Big Hugs

Here’s me … one of my gratitudes … I’ve actually turned it into a daily gratitude intention, and I keep it in my Healing Toolkit of Goodness.  And I have little reminder print-pages that I keep handy on my desk, and on the fridge.  And actually, I often try to go for at least 3 gratitudes a day.  I know.  Whoa – being adventurous.  LOL.  I’m big like that.

All I’m saying is, there are a lot of ways you can work to change your life for the better, efforts you can make (things like eating better, getting more exercise, sleeping longer, etc.), but practicing gratitude is one of the easiest and least time consuming ways you can do it. 

I mean, seriously, how long does it take to think a happy gratitude thought and smile and breathe while doing it?  In the big scheme of a whole day … about a breath.  And for 3 gratitudes and a few moments really focusing on them.  Coupla minutes? 

So really, likely the only thing holding you back from increasing happiness and healthiness in your life, is maybe the know-how (which I’ve just shared with you) and the willpower to do it daily.

Practicing Gratitude Print Page.  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.

Come on, print out my lil’ reminder print-pages.  Set them on your desk.  Put ‘em in your kitchen.  … Wherever you’ll do them.  And then … Do Them Daily!  Voila!!! Gratitude is the gift you can choose to give yourself!  I hope you will!!!

Create and Grow Your Self-Care!

Want to dig even deeper into your Self-Care? Snag your copy of my “Mary Kate’s Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!”

Mary Kate'es Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!

When you find yourself feeling low, negative, unhappy – doubting yourself – maybe your confidence has taken a bit of a tumble & your self-worth is low …

Grab my Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!

You can start feeling better and start smiling again!

Filled with empathetic & supportive Love and Big Hugs!

Delightfully cheerful & colorful art will lift & brighten your smile!

14 loving, big hugging, and supporting pages include proven feel better strategies:

  • Reaffirmations & Positive Self-Talk
  • Gratitude Acknowledgements
  • Smiling POSitudes
  • Additional supporting ideas to help you find your calm and happiness again through self-care and self-love
  • Bonus Love-You Supports and Resources section
Mary Kate'es Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!
MKs Be Kind to You Interactive Self Care Love Letter to You Get Now button

Find more gratitude, POSitude, and Self-Care from me at Etsy!

You can also check out my new ETSY shop!!!

Get Your POSitude On!

Feel happier! Supported! Loved! Hugged!

Bring brightness and goodness into your day, and into your life!

Get inspired every day with a deck of my new POSitude cards! Available in my Etsy shop. Check them out and learn more, now!

Promo Image of POSitude cards on Etsy

Until next week …

Today, I am grateful for you! And all the love and kindness that comes into your life!!! May your day bring you heartwarming goodness and be filled with positive energy!!!
Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate
Practicing Gratitude. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth
MK’s Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for YOU!

Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Hello hungry, happy hearts!

Flu/cold season is here.  A day doesn’t go by that I’m not reading about one of my peeps falling down to a mean bug of some sort.  Ugh!  I hate being sick!!!  So let’s talk about one of the most healing foods you can ever eat:

Chicken Bone Broth!

Why is chicken bone broth so healing?  Well for starters, it’s chockful of helpful, healing proteins like collagen and gelatin.  These help your intestines, skin, and joint health. 

Your intestines are Super Important for your immune system, so if you keep your gut healthy, it will help you stay healthy and fight illness and injury better.  Which is wonderful and amazing!!!  Plus, who doesn’t love glowing, healthy skin, and joints that move?

Additionally, if you add salt to your broth while cooking and/or to taste afterwards, the salt and the hydration provided by the bone broth will help maintain and restore your electrolytic balance, which can get wonky when you’re sick.  Have you ever had achy muscles and spasms while sick?  That’s often your body telling you your electrolytes are wonky, or that you are dehydrated.  I used to drink sports drinks to help, but they’re filled with sugars and artificial colorings.  Bone broth is a healthier choice!!!

Also, the hydration helps heal damaged membranes, and SUPER BIG TIME, the hydration helps you flush the bug out!!!  YES, PLEASE!!!

The warm broth and salt can help soothe a sore throat, too.  Also, I add table pepper while cooking, and to taste at the table.  This helps loosen congestion big time.  I love this for helping with my allergies, too.  I gobble my soup and keep the tissues handy.  I love when I can breathe freely again!

So with that, I just want to add … don’t think bone broth is just for kicking bugs to the curb.

It’s SO MUCH MORE!

Bone broth is a super anti-inflammatory, healing food.  When you need to heal from illness, injury, stress, life, etc., bone broth is my go-to and at the top of my healing list along with blueberries, walnuts, broccoli, and sustainably, wild-caught salmon.  Help your body heal, so you can feel better faster!!!

Let’s talk recipe!

My bone-brothing method of choice: the slow cooker.  I love tossing everything into the pot, and letting it do it’s thing.

My recipe will take you veggie prep time + 12 hours of cooking time + rapid cooling time, and an overnight chill.

Here’s what you’ll need:  (I have an 8 qt slow cooker, but I’ve also used a 3 qt.  I’m going to put the quantities for the 3 qt cooker in (parentheses), so you can still make it easily if you’re going small batch.)

  • (2 lbs) 4 lbs chicken wings
  • (3) 5 carrots
  • (3) 5 celery sticks
  • (1/2 – 1) 1 medium/large onion
  • (1 ½) 3 tablespoons apple cider vinegar
  • Water
  • Salt and Pepper

Here’s what you do:  See pictures below for fun, happy visuals!

  • Clean and prep your veggies however you like.  Some folks I know rinse and toss them in whole, skins and all.  That’s not me.  I’m a peel-my-carrots, cut-off-the-tops-of-my-carrots-and-celery, and peel-off-the-outer-skin-layer-to-my-onions kind of girl.  You do you, and it will work out just fine!
  • Layer your chicken wings into the bottom of your pot.
  • Add in veggies.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Place chicken and veggies in slow cooker.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Add water, apple cider vinegar, salt, & pepper. Cover and turn heat on.
  • Fill with water (for the big pot, that’s about 18 – 20 cups of water.  Can’t remember the small pot.  Maybe 8 – 10 cups?).
  • Add in apple cider vinegar!!!  If this sounds wonky, it’s not.  It’s IMPORTANT!!!  You’ll never taste it in the end – trust me.  I have the most sensitive taste buds you can imagine, and I can’t taste it.  I’m the kid who’ll turn up her nose at chocolate cake made with sour cream, cuz I can taste it … blehcky.  So I promise you.  You won’t taste the apple cider vinegar.  But it’s necessary to help extract all that healing bone protein goodness!!! So DO IT!!!
  • Shake in some salt and pepper.  I add a couple of shakes to start here in the cooking process, but leave the real seasoning for at the table.  That way peeps can control their salt intake better.  Plus, some days I like more salt and pepper to taste, and other days, I go mild.  I like having eating-time options.
  • Cover with the lid.  Turn the heat on high until it comes to a simmer.  Turn heat to low.  Cook for 12 hours!
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
After 12 hours of cooking.
  • Scoop out chunks and pour through strainer into big bowl.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Spoon out big chunks, then pour through strainer to get smaller bits out.
  • Cool using an ice bath.  Takes about 10 minutes.  This step is a safety step.  When I was researching bone broth recipes, I learned lots.  And chefs are particularly dedicated to safe handling.  They encourage using an ice bath to rapidly bring down the temp of the broth, preventing bacterial growth that can happen during slow cooling.  Also, putting simmering hot soup straight into your fridge or freezer to cool, raises the temp inside your fridge or freezer significantly and can affect your other foods.  So, again.  You do you.  If you have a soup making cooling method you love … go with it! Whatever works for you! I do the ice bath to especially not have to put the hot soup right into my fridge.
  • Remove from ice bath, then Cover and place into your fridge overnight.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Rapid cool in ice bath for safest cooling.
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
After overnight chill in fridge, gently scrape off solid fat.
  • Gently scrape off excess fat. You will reveal the gelatinous, happy, healthy, healing bone broth goodness!!!!
  • You can now heat up your portion and salt, pepper, and season to taste … and devour!!!  I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE adding thyme to my soup!  It’s my favorite, and I think it makes the most delicious broth.  If you want to give it a try, I usually add a few good shakes to my bowl after I heat it up, and then I devour it!!! Thyme also has wonderful healing benefits – so added tasty, healing bonus!
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
The gelatinous goodness you see is your bone broth telling you did a perfect job! This bone broth is ready to heat, season, and serve, or turn into chicken soup to serve!

Okay.  So.  From the gelatinous state, you can totally heat, sip, and devour your chicken bone broth as is.  Orrrrrrrrrrr, if you like, you can turn it into chicken/veggie bone broth soup!  This is what I do almost every time!

You can add whatever you want: baked/boiled chicken chunks, veggies, noodles, rice, herbs, etc.  I will say this, though, the closer you stick to broth, veggies, and herbs, the more you maintain the anti-inflammatory nature of the soup.  Adding in chicken, rice, and/or noodles would minimize that effect a bit.  For instance, all rice – organic, brown, wild, … all – has arsenic in it.  There are tolerable limits for arsenic in your weekly diet (usually no more than 2 servings of rice per week), but if you are using the bone broth for its healing qualities, you may want to consider NOT adding in foods that diminish its awesome power.

At this stage for me, I’m definitely an “I eyeball it” kinda girl.  For my big pot of stock, I usually add:

  • 3 cleaned, trimmed, peeled, and sliced carrots
  • 3 cleaned, trimmed, and sliced celery sticks
  • ½ – ¾ diced yellow onion
  • 1 tablespoon of the chicken fat I removed earlier (you can use a veggie oil if you prefer)
  • Salt, pepper, and thyme to taste, at the table
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Make chicken soup! Gently heat veggies and oil over low-medium heat for about 5 minutes. Then add in gelatinous bone broth. Simmer on low for 30 minutes.

Here’s what I do:

  • I gently cook/soften the veggies in the chicken fat; over low-medium heat; for about 5 – 10 minutes.
  • Add in the gelatinous bone broth, 1 cup measuring scoop at a time.  (There is usually a layer of fine particulate “sludge” at the bottom of the pan, which I do not use.  It looks sludgy to me, and that gets my nose rolled up at it … I wash it down the drain.  You can decide for yourself what you want to do with it.  Use it or toss it.)
  • Bring to simmer.  Cook for about 30 – 40 minutes.
  • Portion and serve.  Add salt, pepper, and thyme to taste.  YUMMO!!!
  • At this time, I usually portion all remaining soup into lidded, glass, individual-serving-size freezer bowls.  And then I put all these extra servings in the freezer, making them quick gets for any time I want or need some YUMMO soup and healing power!!!
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You!  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.
Season to taste – ready – DEVOUR!!!

Now that you are empowered to make your very own chicken bone broth, let’s talk about some thoughts and considerations that might be important to you:

  • Given that you are making bone broth in which you intend to cook down to the bone and extract the healthy goodness, it is advisable to use the best quality ingredients to fully enhance and ensure healthy goodness.  Consider organic, free-range chicken and organic veggies, apple cider vinegar, pepper, and herbs.  If ever there was a time to cook pesticide-, added hormones-, and antibiotic-free, this is it.  Cooking down to the bone pulls these contaminants out even more, and that’s not in your best health interest.  I have calculated my cost (using entirely organic and free-range ingredients) at $1 – $2 a serving (depending on how big of a bowl I want!!!  Sometimes I eat a double serving, cuz it’s that good!!!)  Even at $2 a bowl, this is not a lot to spend on healthy goodness (especially when you think of what you pay for a serving of fast food these days).
  • If you prefer adding in herbs or other veggies earlier on (things like bay leaves, garlic, leeks, etc., for instance), go for it!  It’s your soup.  Make it yours!!!  For me, I like the delicious flavor of a simple broth enhanced with some thyme, salt, and pepper.  That’s me.  What do your taste buds want?  Do that!!!
  • A 12 hour cook time is actually on the shorter end of cooking time for bone broths.  My research found that you can actually cook chicken bone broth up to 72 hours.  Duuuuuude!  Like I’m gonna wait that long!  LOL.  Actually, there’s 2 real notes here.  One, the longer you cook your broth, the more gelatinous goodness you will extract.  This can definitely be a good thing!!!  Two, if you cook your veggies longer than 12 hours, they will get bitter and mess with the flavoring of your broth.  If you plan to cook longer than 12 hours, you can either try scooping out just the veggies (sounds miserable in even trying) or you could bind them in a cooking cheesecloth bag or something for easy extraction.  Just know that if you desire to cook your broth longer to get more of the gelatinous protein healing goodness, you will want an action plan for getting the veggies out after 12 hours to avoid having the soup get bitter with the veggies.
  • I saw some recipes in which peeps blended up the cooked veggies to “add nutritional value and extra thickness” to the broth.  I’ll leave this one up to you.  What I can tell you is that after cooking the veggies for 12 hours, I tasted them to see if they were still “usable” and yummy.  My answer is a resounding NO – they’re yucky!!!  After 12 hours of cooking, I feel they have been used of all their goodness and are ready to be disposed of.  To me, if you want to add new, fresh veggies for new nutritious and yummy goodness, that’s the way to make delicious soup from the broth.
  • A quick ice bath cautionary: when you fill up your sink or a tub with ice and water to make your ice bath, please note, that when you put your broth/pan into the ice bath, it might have buoyancy. Be prepared to hold it steady or have some help. It would totally suck to spill your broth into your ice bath after all that cooking.

And that should do it! You are bone brothing ready!!! Get in there and make yourself some happy, healthy, healing goodness to warm you and delight your taste buds!!! And heal you right on up!!!

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Each day support your healthiness with feeling less stress, less anxiety, more happiness and more positivity!

Easy, fun, happy, silly, adorable, and totally supporting you!

7 days of Love and Big Hugs!

Delightfully cheerful & colorful art will lift & brighten your smile!

11 loving, big hugging, and supporting pages include proven happier and healthier promoting strategies:

  • Smile-making, positivity-promoting, happy coloring blocks
  • Gratitude Acknowledgements
  • Self-acknowledgement Reaffirmations
  • Includes “how to get the most out of this challenge” intro page & a summary reflection page
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You can also check out my new ETSY shop!!!

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Feel happier! Supported! Loved! Hugged!

Bring brightness and goodness into your day, and into your life!

Get inspired every day with a deck of my new POSitude cards! Available in my Etsy shop. Check them out and learn more, now!

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May you tackle this flu/cold season illness free! May your holiday season be filled with laughter, love, kindness, gratitude, and joy! Thank you for being here with me … I love spending this time with you!!!

Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate
Recipe: Chicken Bone Broth: MK's Happy, Healthy, Healing, Yummy Goodness for You! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

But, but, but, … I LOVE Gluten!
Having to go gluten-free and making it work for me.

Title pic. Going Gluten-free. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

Sweetest Love Muffins,

I LOVE gluten.  I love it in my cakes, cookies, muffins, breads, biscuits, grilled cheese sandwiches, pizza, pasta, brownies, croissants, coffee cake, donuts, gravies, cereals, …

Going Gluten-free.  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.

Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm … Gluten!!!

I miss it so much.

This will be my second holiday season sans the gluten.  No Thanksgiving stuffing, gravies, desserts … oh my.  I can’t even talk about Christmas and all the cakes and cookies and goodies I won’t be eating.

But I am adapting and making my own way.

Summer, a year ago, I had to go gluten-free for my health.  At first it was just supposed to be a trial run to see if not eating it made me feel better.  I was just over 3 years into what has become a chronic health moment in my life (now at 5 years in).

I make being an aging girl look really hard, and I promise you, I don’t mean to.  Along with transitioning into perimenopause, my body has become alien to me in so many ways.  It’s on a programmed mission that is difficult to cope with and is confusing me and my doctors.  And it’s not telling us when, or even if, this is going to get better.

The symptom highlights I experience that are super relevant here: debilitating chronic fatigue, insomnia, exhaustion, and loss of a 24 hour day (My days can be as short as 2 hours, and I’ve gone as long as 34 hours – it was the major suck!!!).

For those of you who don’t understand what chronic fatigue is, it’s not like you just feel tired, like you didn’t get enough sleep.  Nope, that would be a cakewalk compared to what it is for me.  Imagine unbelievable weakness, where you can’t even get out of bed on your own.  Imagine aching bones and joints.  Being unable to concentrate and think, and not wanting to.  Imagine being so mentally and physically fatigued that even breathing feels exhausting.  And then you just lay there.  A lump.  Too debilitated and fatigued to do anything, and then add in the insomnia.  You can’t even sleep yourself well.  Which, by the way, sleeping doesn’t make you feel better or rested with chronic fatigue.  You can wake up even more tired than when you fell asleep.

So with that picture, you might be able to understand why I was willing to try giving up the gluten.  For those of you who know me and my love of chocolate goodness, you know this was a big give.  But desperation was talking, and I was listening.

Just so you know, I’m not trying to convince anyone to go gluten-free.  It’s so hard to do!  All I’m saying is if you need to, it can be done, and in time, you will likely feel a whole lot better!  And if you don’t need to, maybe my experience will help you to understand how hard it is for us, and help you to empathize with our journey.

The day we came home from the doctor’s office, the decision having been made, I went to our pantry and stared.  I looked at all the yummy food that I wasn’t going to be able to eat. I was torn between feeling good about doing something to help my body but also thinking … what’s left to eat???

When going gluten-free, a first lesson you learn is that gluten is freaking EVERYWHERE!!!  We Americans eat so much wheat and wheat processed product that its gluten has contaminated just about everything.

I came home thinking, all I have to do is move all the bread and wheat stuff to a newly designated “Paul’s side” of the pantry, fridge, and freezer.  But nope.  Just about every grain and dried product that you can think of has been processed in a facility that processes wheat, so gluten.  And if you are gluten-sensitive, then yes, even that is enough to trigger a response. 

So out went my grits, rice, corn, oatmeal, and all their related products, too.  Going gluten-free when you really need to get gluten out of your body means going grain-free – unless, you specifically seek out gluten-free grains, which aren’t always easy to find.

And that cuts deeper than you might think.  Marshmallows, for instance.  Made with cornstarch.  So yep, gluten.  So no marshmallows.  … Seriously?!!!  You’re taking away my marshmallows on top of everything else?  Yep.

So it’s not been easy.  In fact, it’s been really freaking hard.  I won’t lie to you.  Going gluten-free is a challenge!!!!  Especially when you are me, an organic vegetarian (who eats occasional fish).  The variety in my diet plummeted, and I’m still working hard to build up my options and choices.

Going Gluten-free.  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs.

We are mixed household.  Pauli still eats gluten … like … in front of me!!!  LOL.  We’re talking all the things I miss.  Lots of gluten.  Donuts.  Cakes.  Cookies.  Pizza.  And this list goes on.  And it’s even worse for me … because we’re talking True Love, here … I still make cakes and cookies and all this gluten stuff for him to devour in front of me.  (That’s like a straight to heaven kind of thing isn’t it?!!!)

For a quick explanation about the meat and organic choices … there’s a ton of cancer in my family, including colon and breast cancer.  Just over a decade ago, I learned that practically every artificial food coloring used is correlated with colon cancer.  This knowledge took me on my journey to find foods without additives and preservatives, which led me to organic options, and that has grown into a 99% organic habit.  The meat, for me was hard to digest and came with its own hormonally induced symptoms.  So what started out as removing red meat from my diet eventually turned into cutting out all meat except for occasionally eating sustainably wild-caught fish.  Additionally, recently, I’ve learned the AMAZING benefits of bone broth, so I now also make and eat chicken bone broth (but don’t eat the meat itself).

SO.  Being an organic vegetarian who needs to eat gluten-free brings me to my second lesson: it’s a very time consuming and effort-involved journey.  Why?  Because I have to essentially make all of my own food from scratch – which, let’s remember, the whole reason I’m doing this is because I have chronic fatigue … as in many of my days come with ZERO energy.

OK.  I’m assuming by now, you are ready to run for the hills and say screw that going gluten-free thing.  And if so, I get it.  I understand.  It’s hard, and it can totally suck at times.  BUT, before you lace up your runners … here’s the thing:

It’s working.  I’m not a 100% better.  Not yet.  But within a few months of cutting out the gluten, I noticed that my full-on, totally bedridden days reduced from about 27 days a month to about a week.  And now, nearly a year and a half later, I maybe only have 1 – 3 REALLY BAD days a month, and for the most part, none of them are as bad as what I experienced back then.  I still get fatigue attacks, but these days, they seem to be less intense and of shorter duration – however, they still drop me like a sack of potatoes in an instant and without warning.  Also, I still have the insomnia and the non-24 hour day thing … but hey … improvement is good thing!!!!

So for now, I just want to wrap up with a couple of very IMPORTANT things I’ve learned so far.

FIRST

Gluten is definitely an allergen, and if you are not allergic to it, you can still be sensitive to it and experience negative health effects.

If you are in either of these categories, gluten is a highly inflammatory substance, and inflammation leads to disease like diabetes, heart disease, cancers, and rheumatoid arthritis.

If you have ongoing health troubles, and you are wondering if gluten might be at the core, there’s this great doctor online who freely shares an abundance of knowledge – Dr. Axe.  I love his website, and he has no idea I’m talking happy about him. Check him out. (I’ve linked his name to one of the articles he’s written on gluten intolerance … it’s totally worth the read.)

Also, there’s a hiccup with conventional (non-organic) wheat that has nothing to do with gluten and everything to do with Round Up (the highly toxic weed killer they use to dry out the wheat faster to make it ready to harvest faster.  There is conversation about whether people are reacting to the wheat or the Round Up.  If you’d like to read more, Wellness Mama is a website (human’d by a number of health-invested professionals) that offers tremendous healthy living information.  (I’ve linked you here to an article they wrote about conventional wheat … and if you are eating it and don’t like the idea of eating Round Up, please read this article … it’s eye opening!)

SECOND

It’s true that going gluten-free is a challenge, but making all of my own foods has saved us a lot of money … even with buying organic, gluten-free products.  I’m eating super nutritious foods for far less expense.  And my body is thanking me!  So if you are feeling poorly, and you think gluten or wheat might be the culprit … it’s worth checking out.  Just know that it can take a long time to see the full effects.  It depends on you, your body, your needs, and your sensitivities.

What I can tell you is I LOVE Gluten, and even though I miss it, I am happy and grateful it’s out of my life, and I’m on the road to wellness again!

If you are interested in recipes I’ve found, made my own, and turned into things I love, email me and ask for recipes and I will start including them here.

Ready to take my Arting It Up for Happiness and Healthiness: Color Me Happier 7 Day Challenge?

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Each day support your healthiness with feeling less stress, less anxiety, more happiness and more positivity!

Easy, fun, happy, silly, adorable, and totally supporting you!

7 days of Love and Big Hugs!

Delightfully cheerful & colorful art will lift & brighten your smile!

11 loving, big hugging, and supporting pages include proven happier and healthier promoting strategies:

  • Smile-making, positivity-promoting, happy coloring blocks
  • Gratitude Acknowledgements
  • Self-acknowledgement Reaffirmations
  • Includes “how to get the most out of this challenge” intro page & a summary reflection page
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Get Your POSitude On!

Feel happier! Supported! Loved! Hugged!

Bring brightness and goodness into your day, and into your life!

Get inspired every day with a deck of my new POSitude cards! Available in my Etsy shop. Check them out and learn more, now!

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Gluten or no gluten, I hope your day is filled with sweet love and kindness and the biggest hugs ever to hold you and lighten your heart! Thank you for being here with me!!!

Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate
Title pic. Going Gluten-free. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs.

What you give power, has power …

What you give power has power.  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love And Big Hugs.

Hello Gorgeous Loves,

I haven’t always been strong.  For a very long time, I wasn’t very strong at all.  And there are still times when I don’t feel strong.

But there’s this thought in my head, this guiding principle I use to grow:

What you give power, has power.

This guiding thought is an offshoot of a quote:

“It all begins in your mind.  What you give power to, has power over you.”

Leon Brown

Thank you Mr. Brown!  I find his original quote helpful to me when thinking about facing my anxieties, and I am grateful for his words.  To me, they tell me my anxiety is in my mind, and I can control it … which I try very hard to work on.  This quote is a part of my Happy, Healing Place Toolbox of Goodness!

But today, I want to talk about my offshoot thought … What you give power, has power!  To me, this version isn’t about something having control over you.  This version is about growing.  Taking something important to you and investing in it, so that it will grow and grow and grow. 

What you give power, has power.

And I’m talking about you!

Me.  You.  All of us!

  • If you grow your love, your love will be powerful!
  • If you grow your self-confidence, your self-confidence will strengthen and become powerful!
  • If you grow your ability to self-care, your self-care will be powerful!
  • If you grow your self-worth, your self-worth will be powerful!

When you invest in you, you invest in your values and what you can do for yourself.  You make yourself stronger, more self-reliant, more capable.  Better prepared to handle life and its obstacles and challenges.  You will be more open to the gifts of life.  The goodness for you!

It doesn’t mean you won’t stumble or even fall, ever again.  But that’s okay.  You keep investing, learning, and growing.  What you give power, has power.

When you give yourself power, you will have power!

It doesn’t mean you will always have to stand on your own if you don’t want to.  You can surround yourself with people who will love you, care for you, grow with you, support you, and who will bring you up and walk forward with you.  That way when life throws the hard curve balls, you don’t have do it all on your own.  That’s just you being strong and knowing what you need, when you need it, and doing your best to be prepared for when life happens.

What you give power has power.  Mary Kate Kopec.  Love And Big Hugs.  POSitude
Live with POSitude!

We aren’t born knowing how to be strong, but as we face life and learn the lessons it is teaching us, we can grow our strength.  We learn who we are and what we are capable of.  We learn what we need and want to grow – what we want to be better at or stronger at.  This is all good!

In the process, we’ll fail, make mistakes, and need time to heal and grow.  That’s okay.  It’s how it works.  What’s important is not letting our failures or mistakes bring us down (at least not for too long).  Look at them for what they are, life’s learning and growing moments.  Learn and grow, and become stronger.  Also, it’s vital that we give ourselves the time we need to heal and grow.  (No one else gets to determine what that amount of time is.  It’s up to each of us.  It’s individual.  And it happens when it happens.)

The bottom line:

What you give power, has power.

So … will you give YOU power, so YOU have power? The power to love, laugh, be happy, be kind, find joy, feel gratitude, be healthy, be strong, be confident, be whatever you value … be your best you.  It’s up to you, but for sure, what you give power, has power!

Ready to take my Arting It Up for Happiness and Healthiness: Color Me Happier 7 Day Challenge?

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Each day support your healthiness with feeling less stress, less anxiety, more happiness and more positivity!

Easy, fun, happy, silly, adorable, and totally supporting you!

7 days of Love and Big Hugs!

Delightfully cheerful & colorful art will lift & brighten your smile!

11 loving, big hugging, and supporting pages include proven happier and healthier promoting strategies:

  • Smile-making, positivity-promoting, happy coloring blocks
  • Gratitude Acknowledgements
  • Self-acknowledgement Reaffirmations
  • Includes “how to get the most out of this challenge” intro page & a summary reflection page
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You can also check out my new ETSY shop!!!

Get Your POSitude On!

Feel happier! Supported! Loved! Hugged!

Bring brightness and goodness into your day, and into your life!

Get inspired every day with a deck of my new POSitude cards! Available in my Etsy shop. Check them out and learn more, now!

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Thank you for being here – my heart is bright with joy for you! May your day be powerful with you and filled with love and happiness!!!

Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate
What you give power has power. Mary Kate Kopec. Love And Big Hugs.

Create your very own Happy Healing Place toolbox of goodness!

Create your very own happy healing place toolbox of goodness. Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs

Hello Happy Hearts!

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about how kindness saved my life.  In my story of me, I talked about having a safe place to go and be while life was beating me down.  In our happy chit chat today, I want to grow this idea into a bursting toolbox of goodness that will help you tackle the tough times!

Firstly, lemme explain what I mean by a safe place.  To me, safe can be physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually … it can refer to any plane you are existing on.  So to me, a safe place is a place you feel happy, relaxed, calm, at peace, … to me, it is a place for you to heal your heart, mind, body, soul … whatever needs healing.

So let’s call it our happy, healing place!

Depending on whatever trauma and drama your life is dealing down on you, this place can vary, as well as how you use it. 

Let’s grow your Happy, Healing Place Toolbox of Goodness.  You can fill it with anything that makes you happy and helps you heal.  Things like:

  • happy memories
  • happy imagined places
  • photos of happy times
  • happy meditations
  • songs or music that make you feel happy
  • happy books you can read
  • a journal for creating, drawing, arting it up, and writing out thoughts that lead you back to happiness
  • favorite places you love that make you feel calm, peaceful, and happy
  • spending happy time with a friend
  • … and anywhere or anything else you can think of

To give you an idea of something you can put into your toolbox of goodness, here is a drawing of my favorite imagined place and the words I use to meditate it into my mind.  For me, this place is perfect.  It’s nature and delight.  It’s comfortable.  Peaceful.  Relaxing.  And it makes me smile.  The sun is always warm and bright.  The tree is always strong and protective.  The birds are always delightful.  Even the bugs are filled with mirth (and they never sting or bite!).  My blanket is soft and great for sitting, laying, and napping.  The breeze is always soothing.  Sometimes, I add bunnies, squirrels, and/or chipmunks.  And since Baby Bear (our beloved cookie cat) has gone on to live in the stars on Betelgeuse, sometimes even he visits me here … he always did love a good sun warming.  And if Pauli is away and can’t be with me right then, he comes and sits with me, too.

Create your very own happy healing place toolbox of goodness. Mary Kate Kopec.  Love and Big Hugs

Your place can be anywhere, with anything and anybody that makes you feel good, happy, peaceful … anything and everything that helps you relax and heal.  That gives you and your body, mind, soul, and spirit a rest.

In last week’s post, I talked about how all the forms of stress (mental, physical, emotional …) wear your body down and impact your health.  I talked about when you don’t feel well, you likely don’t feel very happy.  So whatever trauma or drama is causing you stress (be it at work, home, in a relationship, anxiety, whatever, wherever, whoever), it’s hurting you, your health, and your happiness.  Your Happy, Healing Place Toolbox of Goodness helps you get needed rest to rejuvenate and cope by spending time in your safe, happy, healing place.

Your toolbox is a tremendous asset to your wellness!

So a very good reason for you to grow your toolbox and to have it pre-made/thought of, written out, collected (however you want to assemble it for readiness) is that it becomes an easy go-to and reminder of all the tricks you have up your sleeves for when times get tough and your stress levels go up.

Because, honestly, once you are already feeling down, bad, low, stressed, and anxious, it can hard to remember the goodness in your life.  It can be hard to remember the happinesses in your life.  It can be hard to remember what to do and how to help you feel better.  This toolbox is for you!

To help you get started, I’m giving you 2 coloring pages – all you have to do is click below.  One is for you to be able to create a visual of a happy place you love.  The other one is for you to list out, write out, explain, draw, … whatever works for you … your list of happy, healing places to spend healing time in.  Perhaps even a reminder checklist of your options.  Whatever works for you.  Keep in mind, some of your happy, healing places might work better for certain kinds of trauma and drama than others, and etc.  So be creative.  Think happy!  Grow your Happy, Healing Place Toolbox of Goodness, and get to healing and feeling happier! This is self-care that loves and big hugs you tight!

Create your very own happy healing place toolbox of goodness Color Page get button. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs

Ready to take my Arting It Up for Happiness and Healthiness: Color Me Happier 7 Day Challenge?

Arting It Up for Happiness and Healthiness Color Me Happier 7 Day Challenge Mary Kate Kopec Love and Big Hugs
Arting It Up for Happiness and Healthiness Color Me Happier 7 Day Challenge Mary Kate Kopec Love and Big Hugs

Each day support your healthiness with feeling less stress, less anxiety, more happiness and more positivity!

Easy, fun, happy, silly, adorable, and totally supporting you!

7 days of Love and Big Hugs!

Delightfully cheerful & colorful art will lift & brighten your smile!

11 loving, big hugging, and supporting pages include proven happier and healthier promoting strategies:

  • Smile-making, positivity-promoting, happy coloring blocks
  • Gratitude Acknowledgements
  • Self-acknowledgement Reaffirmations
  • Includes “how to get the most out of this challenge” intro page & a summary reflection page
Arting It Up for Happiness and Healthiness Color Me Happier 7 Day Challenge Mary Kate Kopec Love and Big Hugs get button

You can also check out my new ETSY shop!!!

Get Your POSitude On!

Feel happier! Supported! Loved! Hugged!

Bring brightness and goodness into your day, and into your life!

Get inspired every day with a deck of my new POSitude cards! Available in my Etsy shop. Check them out and learn more, now!

Promo Image of POSitude cards on Etsy

I’m so happy you are here! You make my day brighter, and I thank you for your love and totally PINK hearts and smiles!!! Wishing you a delightful day filled with kindness and hope!!!

Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate
Create your very own happy healing place toolbox of goodness. Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs

Arting it up for happiness and healthiness – color your stress away!

Arting It Up for happiness and healthiness: Color your stress away! Mary Kate Kopec. Love and Big Hugs

Hello Sparkling Sprites of Joy!

I’m so excited to talk to you today about THE something that has helped me calm my anxious nerves and tackle overwhelming stress more than anything else (except for Pauli’s hugs and soothing voice) … but he can’t be by me 24/7, and let’s be real … even heroes need a break now and again! :0)

So what do I do to calm myself, to relax, de-stress, and squelch the anxious voices and energy that can take me from peaceful to freaked out in zero to instantaneously?  I art it up!

I’m more of an anxious person (had my first full on panic attack when I was 11) than someone who gets stressed out.  But anxiety and the anxious, negative energy it produces creates physical and emotional stress … so even though it’s a different input for the stress, it’s still stress.  And blossoms, stress is B. A. D., baaaaaaddd!

Whatever form it comes in, stress is inflammatory, and chronic inflammation has been identified as a key player/root cause in many, many diseases and states of unwellness:  heart disease, type 2 diabetes, some cancers, ulcerative colitis and Crohn’s disease, asthma, multiple sclerosis, and rheumatoid arthritis, just to name a few.  

So let me hit some highlights about chronic inflammation.  Don’t worry, I’m gonna zoom through here without scary scientific words just so we can be on the same page.

If there is a chronic inflammation, you might think there is likely an acute inflammation, and if so, you’d be right.  So what’s the difference?

In the big picture: acute inflammation is the body’s healthy response to injury and illness to help your body heal, and it only lasts for a little while.  Whereas, chronic inflammation is your body continuing its efforts to heal you for a long period of time (months to years), but the cause of the inflammation isn’t going away.  Too much of a good thing is not so good.  Too much inflammation actually hurts you.

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What kinds of things feed chronic inflammation?  Lots of things actually.  Poor diet, physical stress, mental stress, emotional stress, stress, stress, stress (stress is definitely a potent problem, cuz we all seem to have lots of it … lots of the time), … additionally, things like food allergies, environmental toxins (i.e., even the chemicals in your shampoo can be inflammatory), lack of exercise, bad/unhealthy habits, … you get the idea.

Are you with me when I say, healthiness impacts happiness, and happiness impacts healthiness?  I say this, because, if you’re not healthy, you don’t feel well, and when you don’t feel well, it’s harder to feel happy.  Likewise, when you are unhappy, it’s a form of stress, and stress leads to inflammation, and inflammation leads to unhealthiness.

Ideally … (insert as many LOLs as you need to here for this next statement, cuz I know it’s hard to achieve) … ideally, we achieve a balance in our lives, so we can glow radiantly.

In reality, it’s normal to have some low level of chronic inflammation … it kind of goes along with living.  Normal-ish/ideal looks a bit like this:

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But it’s when we get a multitude of factors that build up and feed our chronic inflammation, that things get mucky.  Our level of chronic inflammation goes up and up and up and our beautiful balance of health and happiness gets squashed, and that can look like this:

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Given that I’ve been dealing with chronic illness for about 5 years now (to include chronic fatigue), I have been growing and growing and growing my awareness and knowledge about my body and my health, trying hard to heal, and living an anti-inflammatory life to the best of my ability.  Mind you, I’m not perfect … but I have learned a lot, and I’ve made a ton of changes that have been helping me tremendously!

But for fun, just between you and me … I still eat dessert, almost daily.  Sugar is super inflammatory … like super duper … but a girl should get at least a little bit of chocolate fun most days, right?!!!!

So what do I do to help reduce the inflammation in my life?  Well, I actively live a life where I try to reduce all the factors that promote inflammation, or as many as possible.  And my anxiety is a bit of challenge.  LOL, a bit of challenge? It’s often a BIG challenge.

I did a lot of reading, and I learned that being creative and arting it up … even coloring … any kind of art, whether you are good or bad at it, doesn’t matter.  It all helps.  So I started drawing and coloring.  And lo and behold, I found what I read to be true!  When you art it up, it redirects your thinking and your attention away from the anxious thoughts and the stress crawling up your spine.  Well, … yes, please.  I hate feeling anxious, and when I sit down to color or draw or doodle or whatever, it takes my mind off of the scary thoughts and my anxiety and stress levels come way down, even all the way down.

So … for you.  Today, I’m giving you one of my squee-doodles to print off right now and color.  Give it a try.  Take 5 minutes and see if you relax a little.  Or even a lot.  

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I’ve talked to my girlfriends who have tried the adult coloring books, and what I hear a lot is that they actually get stressed, because they try to do all the coloring, but the pictures are so large, and the details are so fine, they get stressed trying to make time to finish the picture (which defeats the purpose)

If this is you, then you’ll love my cutie patutie little color blocks.  They’re small, adorkable, filled with fun and happiness, POSitude, and they only take a little bit to color.  BUT, they give you a few minutes just to yourself (self-care), to color happiness and wellness into your body. 

You can take your self-care up a notch by doing calm breathing while you color.  And also, if you think about things that make you grateful while you color … or something you’ve done today that you feel good about … you reinforce yourself with positive, stress relieving reaffirmation.  And all of this, you dear lovely heart, is SO VERY GOOD for you and your happiness and healthiness!

I hope you enjoy your color page today!  It’s totally FREE and on me.

Ready to take my Arting It Up for Happiness and Healthiness: Color Me Happier 7 Day Challenge?

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Each day support your healthiness with feeling less stress, less anxiety, more happiness and more positivity!

Easy, fun, happy, silly, adorable, and totally supporting you!

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11 loving, big hugging, and supporting pages include proven happier and healthier promoting strategies:

  • Smile-making, positivity-promoting, happy coloring blocks
  • Gratitude Acknowledgements
  • Self-acknowledgement Reaffirmations
  • Includes “how to get the most out of this challenge” intro page & a summary reflection page
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I’m so happy you are here! You make my day brighter, and I thank you for your love and totally PINK hearts and smiles!!! Wishing you a delightful day filled with kindness and hope!!!

Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate
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How the kindness of others saved my life …

How kindness saved my life Mary Kate Kopec Love and Big Hugs

Sweet wonderful love muffins,

You know that person in your life – the one who makes one bad decision after the next?  Maybe it’s her continual bad choices in relationships.  Or how she keeps screwing up jobs.  Or whatever it is that makes you shake your head.

That something – or even, somethings – whatever it is, her life seems to be on a downward spiral of going absolutely nowhere but bad, and she seems like a total lost cause.  I was once her.  And the kindness of others saved my life.  And changed my life for the better.

When we see someone making what we think are poor choices, I know how easy it can be to write them off as not worth our time, or that they are lost forever, or any other multitude of unhelpful conclusions.  But as someone who was once there, I’d like to offer another explanation.  One that is filled with hope and positive possibility.

Let me paint the picture with a few, quick, relevant details.  Me, in my late teens.  A recovering runaway who took night school to be able to graduate at 16, so I could move out on my own and get away from the emotional devastation that my family called home.  I worked as many hours as I could at my 3 part-time jobs, so that I could keep a roof over my head.  Sometimes I had enough for electricity, heat, and food, and sometimes I didn’t. 

For onlookers, I was struggling and unstable.  Oftentimes, cold and hungry.  I’m not sure if anyone saw how hard I was trying, but in reflection, I think at least some did.

For me, I wasn’t trying to make poor choices.  I was trying to make my life better, and I didn’t have a good first clue how to do it, except that I needed to stay on my feet and not “go back home.”  That place was hell, and I’d enough.

This time in my life became a learning, growing phase that came with significant bumps and bruises, but somehow, somewhere in me, I found a resilient determination to be hopeful and not to give up.

I had very little to no self-confidence or self-esteem.  I hadn’t figured out how to take care of myself.  And the lack of love in my life, made me crave emotional connection to the point of self-destruction.  Guys were my downfall.  And I was an easy target.

So with that picture, let me just say, It’s the person who stops trying that is a true sadness and loss.  The ones who give up and get stuck in the mire.  It could have happened to me, and if it had, I’m certain I would’ve never accomplished all that I have.  Or be able to give all that I do.

What made the difference?  I promise you: the kindness of others.

Patience.  A shoulder to cry on.  An ear to listen.  Time to give.  A hug to hold.  Words of encouragement and wisdom to share.  Simply making time to care.  Being a positive role model. And peanut butter sandwiches.

It was the benevolent presences in my life that kept me going and learning, getting better, and never giving up.

A few quick notes about being a benevolent presence, should someone in your life need you. 

  • It’s not your job nor your responsibility to fix this person.  They have to do that themselves.
  • Your help, your kindness, your benevolence will not likely be “the thing” that finally set this person off on the “right track.”  Although it might just be.  But more likely, it’s part of a series of people and kindnesses over time that gives this person the support and springboard to grow forward and past the struggle they are swimming in.

My heart is filled with bottomless thanks and gratitude for every person who was there for me every time I needed it, even when I was exhausting and seemingly hopeless.  These wonderful people saved my life.  Their support was vital in giving me space and time to grow my confidence bit by bit, until I felt strong enough to keep going on my own.

An important note on sympathy:

Along the way, I came across people who weren’t really kind or helpful.  They looked at me with eyes and words of sympathy, and I quickly learned to hate it.  The words of “poor you” weren’t compassionate, nor caring.  Just a passing pity for the lost cause and helpless situation that to them I had become.  I got a fair share of this as well in my journey.  And luckily for me, I had that resilient determination thing going.  I learned that pity isn’t caring, and I wanted to be a person that was cared for, not dismissed on a heavy sigh.  I wanted to grow myself into a person who wasn’t pitiable.

I suspect that not all who are desperately trying to find and grow themselves will respond with such a positive outcome as I did to the sympathetic pity.

So if I may, please be careful of these emotions around people in need.  Choose to care.  Give precious moments of your time and your heart.  And if the person who is in need has exhausted you beyond any more care you have to give (Let’s be real, it can happen.  Finding oneself can take a really long time.), then do what you can to guide them to the next bright light post and wish them well, letting them move forward surrounded by your positive, loving light.

Remember, it’s not your job to fix them.  You’re a moment of kindness and love to them on their journey toward their wellness.  It’s not helpful to either of you should their need become toxic to you both.

Okay, so let me give you some of the concrete examples of kindness I received during the particularly difficult time in my life that was my mid- to late teens.  Some are big, but most are small to medium.  All made a vital difference!

One of the benefits of being so broke was that I got to take a few courses at the local community college for free.  This was AWESOME, because it gave me a weather-controlled, safe environment to spend time in; safe people to be around; and an opportunity to learn and grow myself.

At this community college, I can give you a number of examples of life-helping and –altering kindness … here are just a few I remember especially and fondly:

  • I’d go to office hours for help in one of my classes, and the professor must’ve noticed I wasn’t likely eating much, because every time I went, she would quietly get out her peanut butter and bread and an apple “to eat her lunch,” and she’d always make sure I ate, too.  It wasn’t unusual for that to be the only meal I got that day.
  • In a pottery lab I learned in, there was a bunch of artistic guys making the most amazing pottery I’d ever seen.  The guys ranged in ages and dispositions.  I was the only girl.  And instead of ganging up on me and taking advantage of the situation (as I usually experienced with my low self-confidence and -esteem), they created a safe space for me.  They would talk to me and encourage me (even though my skills were pitiful, and I spent most of my time making little teddy bears and animals made of clay balls, lol.).  And I remember one of the guys in particular.  He was in his mid 30’s to my 17 yrs, and he actively listened to me, and listened to me, and listened to me even more.  He never judged.  He gave me life encouragements, and made me feel heard and important enough to warrant his time.  And never, ever did he make an inappropriate advance.
  • Every Thursday night that he could afford, a friend from childhood would bring me a fast food sandwich of some sort.  Again, someone making sure I got some food.
  • And there was another older guy in a another class, a recovering alcoholic who must’ve seen the signs of trouble in my life, because he also provided a safe space for me, never being inappropriate.  And he taught me the mind-healing benefits of “the drive.”  A cathartic time spent being quiet and reflecting while driving along less-traveled, winding roads.  He would take me out for drives, and we would just be quiet and reflect and heal.
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And there’s just one more example I’ll share for now, but it came about a year before this community college time.  It happened in the highly turbulent part of my life and aftermath following my running away from home (like for realz, on the streets, cold, wet, hungry, no shelter, no safety, for an extended period of time kind of running away).  The events that led up to this running away are complex and filled with SO MUCH emotional loss and desperation that spun out of control after the family trauma when I was 9.  I won’t get into all of that now.  But what I will say is that 2 things of significant, lifesaving importance occurred just a few critical months later. 

  • The first is an aunt and uncle stepped up and took me in for a summer.  It was a difficult summer for all, but I had a safe space, was cared for, and was shown the “bizarre” behavior of people in love being affectionate and doing “crazy” things like holding hands.  I’d never seen anything like it.  And I can tell you … AWKWARD … when they tried hugging me.  But it laid the foundation for loving behavior that I would later in life, in my own relationships, seek out. 
  • And the second, their adult son, my cousin … he gave me words and encouragement that has saved my life, literally, multiple times.  One day, while doing yard work together, I was talking about my problems, and he must’ve sensed I was contemplating giving up (That’s my nice way of saying, I was seriously considering killing myself … heavy, right?!  I know.  It sucked.)  But he said, “If this is it.  If this is rock bottom, then you just need to hang on tight here for little bit, because you’ve got nowhere else to go but up.  Just hang on.”  For me, this worked.  And I’m so very grateful. 
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The life I’ve grown into has given me the opportunity to be there for so many others.  And to experience so much love and happiness … I could’ve never imagined it, but it has happened, and my heart is BIG with it!

All I’m saying here is that it doesn’t make much to be kind.  Be an ear, be a shoulder, listen, care, give a hug, make a sandwich, be a positive role model, or simply be a safe, non-judgmental place to be. Let the love in your heart grow and share it!

Every day, acts of kindness and caring (little, small, medium, and big, whatever you can give), these make real, life-impacting differences!  You and your kindness are important and needed!  And from me to you and to all the people who have been there for me along my way … Thank You so much – I am so grateful for you and for my life!

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  • Reaffirmations & Positive Self-Talk
  • Gratitude Acknowledgements
  • Smiling POSitudes
  • Additional supporting ideas to help you find your calm and happiness again through self-care and self-love
  • Bonus Love-You Supports and Resources section
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Thank you for being here with me! May your day bring you heartwarming goodness and be filled with positive energy!!!

Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate

What to do when life falls down hard on you …

15 Habits for Happy Healthiness Mary Kate Kopec Love and Big Hugs

A beautiful blossom emailed me the other day.  She told me she is going through some things, and that there isn’t anything she can do about it.

It truly sucks when life falls on you like this.  It happens.  It’s usually hard, seriously unfun, and oftentimes, it leaves us feeling terribly isolated, anxious, and depressed when it does.

So that’s what I want to talk to you about today.  What in the world you can do when life falls on you, and the circumstances aren’t in your control?  How can you feel better?

Spoiler alert … what can you do when life falls down hard on you? … you can take care of you … lemme explain …

How does taking care of you help?

When life gets hard, our survival mode usually kicks in, and our stress levels go up.  If this life-falling event has a chronic, persistent flair to it – and it seems like it’s never going to end – our increasing stress levels can teach us how to ride a new, elevated baseline, which is great for coping.  But for our long term health (mental, physical, emotional, … all of it) … it suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucks!!!!!

These stress levels attack our bodies through the increase of a hormone called cortisol.  Cortisol is produced by your adrenals, which are little organs sitting on top of your kidneys.  It can be fatiguing to your adrenals to be on the constant alert like this.  And the long story short = stress leads to inflammation, and inflammation leads to unwellness, even disease.

So.  Life happens.  And when it happens hard and persistently, we can get hit with a double whammy.  Not only do we have to deal with whatever the unpleasantness of the moment/time is, it can lead to physical illness, and that just ain’t good!

Sooooo.  When you can’t fix life – when you are trying to cope and waiting for all the pieces to come together and get righted – this is most definitely the time for you to invoke your right to self-care!  And then to make time for it!  This is a something that you can definitely do!

And only you can do this.

Plus you get to decide how much time you give yourself.  Balancing you against all of your commitments (family, work, household stuff … whatever your long list is that I know is calling you) … this balance is definitely a challenge.  But you are important!  You are worth your time!  And the good news is that you can even start small and work your way up.

Let’s hit some highlights:

There’s basic biology.

You can eat nutritious food.  Grab a banana, an apple, a can of sustainable, wild-life-safe, wild-caught tuna.  Add a bag of frozen blueberries to your next bowl of oatmeal.  Nutrient-dense food helps your body heal and decrease inflammation.

Drink your water.  That whole 8 glasses of water a day is a real thing.  It helps you keep your electrolytes balanced and to flush out toxins.  This helps you to heal and to decrease inflammation.  Plus, insufficient water can, among many things, give you headaches and make you feel hungry.  And you don’t need that on top of everything else!

Get enough sleep.  Sleep is rest.  Rest heals you.  You must sleep, my beautiful love muffin.  It’s so important!!!

Get some exercise.  Walk.  Run.  Ride a bike.  Punch a punching bag.  Do some yoga.  Get your blood flowing; help your body breathe and nourish itself.  Studies show yoga changes your brain chemistry – it helps to regulate nerve activity and reduces stress levels.  It can induce a feeling of calm.  This is helpful and so very good!  Even 10 minutes a day is better than no minutes a day.  Help yourself feel better!

Take an intentional, calming breath every day.  Even if you only have a moment.  You’re in your car sitting at a stop light.  An elevator.  Standing in the shower.  … Take a moment.  Close your eyes.  Inhale deeply for a count of 4 to 7, hold it for 4 to 7, and then exhale slowly for 4 to 7.  This breath is just for you.  It’s your moment.  Your time.  Your healing.  Let calm wash over you and hold you.

15 Habits for Happy Healthiness Mary Kate Kopec Love and Big Hugs
15 habits for happy healthiness Mary Kate Kopec Love and Big Hugs

There’s positive energy reinforcements.

Practice POSitude.  Think, focus, and act on positive thoughts.

Reaffirmations.  Talk to yourself with positivity.  You can do this!  You will heal!  You are worth your time!  You are worth your love!  You are wonderful and have so much to share and love!

Practice gratitude.  Tell yourself every day at least one thing you are grateful for.  The more heartfelt and genuine your gratitude, the more healing and calm it will bring you.

Smiling.  Seriously … it helps!  Smiling makes you feel better.  Add in some positive self-talk, gratitude, calming breathing … it’s a formula for feel better.

Color or create something.  Creative energies exercised change your thinking, reduce your stress and anxiety, and increase your calm.  I recommend coloring with your favorite colors!!!  This helps me tremendously!

Journal.  Write it out.  Get those thoughts racing around in your head out of your head.  Write them down on paper.  Acknowledge them.  Acknowledge any limitation or frustration you feel.  If any actionable thoughts come to mind, write them down and figure out a way to do them if it will help you cope or solve your problems.  Write out your feelings about what’s happening.  And remind yourself your feelings are 100% valid.  You can’t control everything, but you can focus on what you can do.  And you can love yourself for coping through this challenge.

Laugh!  Laugh out loud.  Watch something funny.  Read a joke.  But laugh heartily.  Every day!

Connect with a loved one!  Get a hug!  Share a moment.  Have a cup of herbal tea with a friend.  Go for a walk together and be there for each other.  Connect, love, and hug!!!!

Love yourself!  Think of something you do well.  Be genuine and heartfelt.  Focus on this something and love yourself for it! 

All of these are shown to change your brain chemistry and to help you to feel better.  Happier.  Even if only for the moment.  You are still helping you to cope, heal, and reduce your stress.  And this is helping you to keep healthy.

And one last, super helpful thing.

Surround yourself with love and support, with people who will bring you up, and help you walk forward through this difficult time!  Good people – special family and friends – in your life can most definitely make all the difference in the world!

And in the times when you feel yourself not coping as well as you need, reach out for help.  Get the help you need!  Talk to your doctor, therapist, counselor, spiritual advisor, life coach … someone who can dig the extra deep with you to get you past this hump.  Get the care and love and help and big hugs you need!

When life falls down hard on you and you feel like there’s nothing you can do, know that you CAN do something.

You can take care of you!

Self-care and self-love are vital – and these give you something helpful to focus on.  It gives you actionables, and getting things done helps us to feel productive and useful.  And the actionables I’ve shared above will also help you be happier and healthier, so you are getting so much bang for your taking-care-of-you bucks!

Every day, I remind myself: Focus on what you can do!

What can you do when life tackles you?  You can self-care and self-love!!!  Certainly, these may not make the life beat down you are getting go away any faster, but they will help you to cope better and stay healthier while you are dealing with it … and that’s just gotta be a good thing!

Want to dig even deeper into your Self-Care? Snag your copy of my “Mary Kate’s Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!”

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When you find yourself feeling low, negative, unhappy – doubting yourself – maybe your confidence has taken a bit of a tumble & your self-worth is low …

Grab my Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!

You can start feeling better and start smiling again!

Filled with empathetic & supportive Love and Big Hugs!

Delightfully cheerful & colorful art will lift & brighten your smile!

14 loving, big hugging, and supporting pages include proven feel better strategies:

  • Reaffirmations & Positive Self-Talk
  • Gratitude Acknowledgements
  • Smiling POSitudes
  • Additional supporting ideas to help you find your calm and happiness again through self-care and self-love
  • Bonus Love-You Supports and Resources section
Mary Kate'es Be-Kind-to-You Interactive Self-Care Love Letter to You!
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You can also check out my new ETSY shop!!!

Get Your POSitude On!

Feel happier! Supported! Loved! Hugged!

Bring brightness and goodness into your day, and into your life!

Get inspired every day with a deck of my new POSitude cards! Available in my Etsy shop. Check them out and learn more, now!

Promo Image of POSitude cards on Etsy

Thank you for being here with me! May your day bring you heartwarming goodness and be filled with positive energy!!!

Love and Big Hugs,

Love and Big Hugs Mary Kate