Hello Sweet Beautiful Blossoms!
Today is sort of an impromptu post. I have lots and lots of planned posts and things to say, which I will definitely keep on writing, but for this quickie moment in time, I’m reading this incredibly helpful book called, The Body Keeps The Score. In the short of it, it’s about trauma and recovery, but in the long of it, it shares juicy, Amaze-balls insight into mental and emotional health, biology (structure & function), healing, and the healthcare system approach to treating mental and emotional challenges. ... It ain't light reading, but it's worthy reading! So ... I'm reading today ... and something I read resonated SO BIG and SO DEEP I just had to share with you!!!
What I’m reading today really resonates with so much of what is real in our lives … it’s about how when we surround ourselves with positive, functional relationships, it helps us cope through stress and trauma.
More to the point, it says these positive, functional relationships are critical for healing and coping.
I’m gonna paraphrase from the book here (I'm in CH 5 for those of you who are so inclined to dig into the book yourselves.):
“Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health. Safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives. … Social support is the most powerful protection against becoming overwhelmed by stress and trauma. … To get this social support requires being heard and seen … truly … feeling that we are held in someone else’s mind and heart."
And there's a hair-bit more of super importance:
"For our physiology to calm down, heal, and grow we need a visceral feeling of safety. … You can’t get an Rx for this. These connections are hard earned and complex.”
There are 2 main reasons why I decided to jot down my thoughts on this for you:
Throughout Covid, I’ve been forced to navigate my anxieties and fears and my increasingly complex health challenges, and as a way to navigate and cope, I:
- joined a women’s circle
- started doing YogaWithAdriene
- invested in my mental, emotional, and physical health (a relationship I have with myself … that in all honesty covers everything I’m doing here … I have committed to myself and my wellness.)
- started working with wellness and success coaches that are positive peeps for me to work with
- distanced myself from toxic information
- returned to therapy after 20 years
- am growing my knowledge of women’s health and the effects of inflammation
- adopted anti-inflammation eating and living habits
I’m taking positive actions for myself and surrounding myself with positive, functional relationships, and IT’S WORKING!!!!
As part of the above, I said I’m growing my knowledge about women’s health and the effects of inflammation … and what I’m reading in this book supports a very important aspect of being able to reduce inflammation (which, honestly, if you’re a blossom – an estrogen-producing, vagina-bearing individual [EPVBI … or some new acronym yet to be determined] … YOU MUST KNOW … you very likely have elevated inflammation … and this means, you are prone to developing a host of unfriendly health challenges … like the Big C, heart disease, stroke, etc … but more details of this are for another post … lots of them.) ...
So back to this support of reducing inflammation presented in this book. The bottom line is having positive mental and emotional wellness supports a reduction in inflammation.
Therefore, surrounding yourself with positive, functional relationships will not only make you FEEL better in the happiness department, it will help you BE HEALTHIER in every way.
Make friends. Surround yourself with people who love and support you. Who will see and hear you for who you are. Who will connect with you.
If your current tribe is not serving you … aka supporting you … seek and build a new tribe.
That’s what I am doing, and it’s working!
It won’t happen overnight. It will take time. But you are worth it!
And that is my impromptu message of love and big hugs for you today!
Oh ... I just want to add, I know this can be easier said than done ... I am human after all ... the challenges of first of all valuing yourself enough to commit to yourself can be a doozy, and then once you value yourself, quitting or navigating toxic relationships is hard. I know.
So what I'm saying here is LOVE YOU to Be Well. Baby steps with the big goal in mind! Start small. Remember: "Progress, Not Perfection" (Jill Stante).
Try starting with either growing a new positive, functional relationship, or by reducing time in a toxic one. And then keep loving you and moving forward!!!
And say this next Positude out loud to yourself to remind yourself ... daily ... frequently ... as much as you need until it's grown deep inside you with knowing:
Hope this helps! Thank you, always, for being here with me and sharing this growing time together!!!!
Big Love and Big Hugs!